OHbaby! Forums : Money tree/wishing wells https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 11:09:54 +0000 Sat, 12 Feb 2011 10:20:15 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37966 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : jazzy wrote:I am not fussed...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1265123&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1265123 Author: _H_
Subject: 37966
Posted: 12 February 2011 at 10:20am

Originally posted by jazzy jazzy wrote:

I am not fussed on the poems, I would prefer something on the invitation saying included is a red envelope in case you would like to contribute to our wishing well instead of a gift.


I think we might do this because DP doesnt like poems either. I like the idea of a red envelope with no names on them because then people dont have to feel bad if they cant afford to give much(if they want to give anything at all)we hope to use the money for our honeymoon but a lot depends on when we will be starting IVF ]]> Sat, 12 Feb 2011 10:20:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1265123&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1265123 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : I am not fussed on the poems,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1265078&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1265078 Author: jazzy
Subject: 37966
Posted: 12 February 2011 at 9:02am

I am not fussed on the poems, I would prefer something on the invitation saying included is a red envelope in case you would like to contribute to our wishing well instead of a gift.

I have no problem with giving money but would not write my name on it, I don't leave price tags on presents.

There will be some who prefer to give gifts & bargain hunt so the cash present may not be much but then I don't think weddings are about what you may get in the way of gifts more about the day...money gets spent, gifts break but the day you will remember forever ]]> Sat, 12 Feb 2011 09:02:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1265078&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1265078 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : clover wrote:Personally I don&#039;t...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264874&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264874 Author: JadeC
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 8:35pm

Originally posted by clover clover wrote:

Personally I don't like them or honeymoon registers but I get why people do it. I just think the idea of asking directly for money is a bit off. Just my opinion and I know they are generally considered to be standard these days. I think you'll find that even if you don't specifically ask for cash most people will give you cash or vouchers anyway.


Me too. I really dislike the poems, I think asking for money is tacky. I know everyone gives at a wedding, but I still think it's rude to ask for gifts (esp money) unprompted. JMO.]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 20:35:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264874&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264874 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : love the little poems!! I think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264771&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264771 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 6:36pm

love the little poems!!  I think they are really common these days and I dont have a problem with them at all, would much rather give money that would be appreciated than a gift of something that they already have!

]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 18:36:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264771&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264771 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : have you thought of a register...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264764&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264764 Author: chickadeedoo
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 6:20pm

have you thought of a register for a honeymoon / holiday? People can pay for a part of the honeymoon like an outing on a boat if you go to fiji or something like that.

We had a register and briscoes and stevens and briscoes register sux as we got 3 of the same thing there.]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 18:20:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264764&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264764 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : .Mel wrote: peachy wrote:I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264695&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264695 Author: peachy
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 4:30pm

Originally posted by .Mel .Mel wrote:

Originally posted by peachy peachy wrote:

I prefer it when given the option of giving money instead of adding to the couples collection of white platters, toasters and kettles

In fact even if we don't get the option, we still give money!


Yep me too. We had a honeymoon registry and got to go on a familymoon to Fiji, we wouldn't have been able to do it otherwise.

Our friends had a wishing well and we contributed to that (only a small amount) as we had to fly down to Queenstown and pay for accommodation etc on top of that.


Thats similar to us, we asked for Mitre 10 vouchers or Farmers vouchers and after we had spent the money we wrote in our thank you cards "thank you for your generous gift of a Farmers voucher, your voucher was put towards our new washing machine and dryer", same with the Mitre 10 vouchers but we put them towards outdoor furniture, so they knew what they had contributed to in the end and we didn't spend them on crap!]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 16:30:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264695&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264695 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : No issue with it at all but some...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264600&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264600 Author: crafty1
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 2:32pm

No issue with it at all but some of the oldies will mumble and grumble. We had some people give gifts and that was great too.

We had some wording that said something to the effect that although any gifts given we would love, people were also free to leave money if they preferred. 95% gave the money. That wasn't how it was worded but it's on our comp that died.

Another way to do it is to give your mum/his mum a list of a few things you would like for those who aren't comfortable with it and then you'll still get something you need. They will know who will feel funny about it.
Technically in true etiquette you should not even refer to presents/gifts etc!

Despite all this at our wedding we got a toaster. It is still sitting in the cupboard unused! ]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 14:32:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264600&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264600 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : Mucky_Tiger wrote:If you already...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264536&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264536 Author: _H_
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 1:29pm

Originally posted by Mucky_Tiger Mucky_Tiger wrote:

If you already live together its perfect.
this is the poem on the invite our friends used:

Because at first we lived in sin
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!


i kind of like this one but it is kind of cheeky. In saying that though it does suit our relationship. anyone good with words and could change swell to a word that rhymes with tree?????]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 13:29:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264536&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264536 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : love that poem monkeys! ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264519&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264519 Author: gypsynita
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 1:09pm

love that poem monkeys!]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 13:09:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264519&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264519 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : peachy wrote:I prefer it when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264495&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264495 Author: .Mel
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 12:50pm

Originally posted by peachy peachy wrote:

I prefer it when given the option of giving money instead of adding to the couples collection of white platters, toasters and kettles

In fact even if we don't get the option, we still give money!


Yep me too. We had a honeymoon registry and got to go on a familymoon to Fiji, we wouldn't have been able to do it otherwise.

Our friends had a wishing well and we contributed to that (only a small amount) as we had to fly down to Queenstown and pay for accommodation etc on top of that.]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:50:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264495&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264495 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : We lived together before this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264493&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264493 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 12:49pm

We lived together before this wedding
So we have a home, full of toasters and bedding
So what to get for the bride & groom
Whose house is set up in every room?
To save you looking, shopping and buying,
Here's an idea you might like trying!
We need (new flooring) and (a new table) too,
But registering for huge items ain't the thing to do
So please put some money into a card,
Now make a wish.... see, that wasn't hard!
Now we've saved you all the fuss,
We hope you'll come and celebrate with us!
A money tree will be at the reception hall
To deposit your wishes... Thanks and love to all.]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:49:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264493&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264493 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : If you already live together its...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264488&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264488 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 12:44pm

If you already live together its perfect.
this is the poem on the invite our friends used:

Because at first we lived in sin
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:44:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264488&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264488 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : I prefer it when given the option...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264453&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264453 Author: peachy
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:58am

I prefer it when given the option of giving money instead of adding to the couples collection of white platters, toasters and kettles

Infact even if we dont get the option, we still give money!]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 11:58:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264453&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264453 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : Personally I don&#039;t like them...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264450&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264450 Author: clover
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:55am

Personally I don't like them or honeymoon registers but I get why people do it. I just think the idea of asking directly for money is a bit off. Just my opinion and I know they are generally considered to be standard these days. I think you'll find that even if you don't specifically ask for cash most people will give you cash or vouchers anyway.]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 11:55:14 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264450&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264450 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : I think these days people are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264431&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264431 Author: MamaT
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:30am

I think these days people are quite open to the idea of gifting money rather than presents. I actually prefer it, because often you really don't know what the couple already does and doesn't have, and there is nothing worse than giving someone their 4th toaster


We ummed and ahhhed over it for quite a while at our wedding and decided in the end to ask for vouchers for Harvey Norman instead and purchased a new lounge suite with it. A lot of people gave money or cheques instead of vouchers though. We were then able to tell everyone what we put the money towards in the thankyou cards.


We were going to do a wee poem to go in with our invites, but instead put the following on an info sheet along with directions, accommodation etc etc.

"The best present is your presence, however, for those that wish vouchers from Harvey Norman would be greatly appreciated".

Edited by MamaT]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 11:30:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264431&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264431 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : Hey there, Here is one of my fav...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264420&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264420 Author: monkeys
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:23am

Hey there,
Here is one of my fav poems but is for a wishing well but perhaps if your creative you could adapt it!

Our home is quite complete now,
we've been together long.
So please consider our request,
and do not take us wrong.

A delicate request it is,
we hope you understand.
Please play along, as it will give
our married life a hand.

The tradition of the wishing well,
is one that's known by all.
Go to the well, toss in a coin
and as the coin does fall.

Make a wish upon that coin,
and careful as you do.
Cause as the well's tradition goes,
your wishes will come true.

So on this special day or ours,
the day that we'll be wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts
but give money is it's stead.

And as you drop the envelope,
with money great and small,
Remember, make your wish
as you watch your money fall.
Submitted by Lisa & Daryl Stack

]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 11:23:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264420&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264420 <![CDATA[Money tree/wishing wells : Do you think they are tacky or...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264408&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264408 Author: _H_
Subject: 37966
Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:16am

Do you think they are tacky or are they ok for a couple that is already living together?

Also does anyone have a nice poem to add to the invite? We are thinking more of a money tree and giving people red envelopes (dont no if we should put it in the invite or have it next to the tree at the wedding)

Any thoughts/ideas? ]]> Fri, 11 Feb 2011 11:16:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37966&PID=1264408&title=money-tree-wishing-wells#1264408