OHbaby! Forums : Wishing well- Wedding https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 14:37:58 +0000 Fri, 04 Feb 2011 20:26:31 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37845 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I like nice tidy numbers. $100...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259420&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259420 Author: Angs1982
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 8:26pm

I like nice tidy numbers. $100 is too much for me so I tend to go with $50, plus a small gift.

Most people gave $50 - 100 for our wedding. ]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 20:26:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259420&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259420 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : See, I quaver a bit at spending...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259043&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259043 Author: BugTeeny
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:28pm

See, I quaver a bit at spending a lot on weddings.
Yes, the bride and groom often pay $60+ a head on food and drink, but that's their choice.
I've been to lots of different weddings (formal sit-down dinners, beach BBQ, spit-roast and buffet salads) and all have been awesome! So if the bride and groom choose to spend a lot (or a little) on their own wedding that shouldn't dictate how much you should spend on them for a gift.

I say $50 if you don't know them well (or don't socialise with them on a semi-regular basis) and around $100 if you are great friends/family.
Especially if you're having to travel and cover all the costs involved.
You're choosing to go (it's not the law to attend every thing you get invited to) so I think you should get to choose how much you spend on gifts.

That's just my two cents ]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 14:28:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259043&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259043 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : We&#039;re going to a cousins...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259019&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259019 Author: fairy1
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:12pm

We're going to a cousins wedding and they have set up an account. They have asked for money as its her 2nd wedding and they have everything they need. We will give $50 due to being on one income and I don't really know her and we got the invite a month after the RSVP date so think our family is more rent a crowd, its also cocktail food and not a sit down meal.

If we were on 2 incomes I would give more.]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 14:12:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259019&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259019 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : Depends on what you&#039;re comfortable...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259008&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259008 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:02pm

Depends on what you're comfortable parting with. I'd say $50-$100. Though what if you're having to pay for your own meals, and they're also having a wishing well. ]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 14:02:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1259008&title=wishing-well-wedding#1259008 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : We usually give about $80 to $100...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258858&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258858 Author: naysgirl
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 11:13am

We usually give about $80 to $100 and work it out on roughly how much a meal would cost and drinks as well.

We are going to a friends wedding in March and ended up buying a gift that was $100 (a bit more than what I was going to pay, been on one income but that was on their wedding register) but they are providing transport to and from the reception venue and its a sit down meal so I figure that $100 is probably about right.

I think it depends abit on if you know the bride and groom really well. When we got married, we were just thankful to get anything, as I know everyone has different financial cirumstances etc.]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 11:13:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258858&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258858 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : We had a wishing well, and some...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258842&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258842 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 10:48am

We had a wishing well, and some people gave money and some vouchers, and those that wanted to gave gifts.
In the end its only a suggestion and guests are able to do what ever they wish.]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 10:48:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258842&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258842 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : MamaT wrote: apriletta wrote:TBH...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258839&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258839 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 10:46am

Originally posted by MamaT MamaT wrote:

Originally posted by apriletta apriletta wrote:

TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :)



People dont have weddings for the gifts/money. Well at least they shouldn't.
Its often expensive just attending a wedding when you factor in travel, outfits and often childcare, you shouldn't have to get yourself into trouble financially just to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak.


No but I always think if the bride/groom are paying to feed me which can easily be $50-100 a head then that's what my gift/money helps to cover.]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 10:46:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258839&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258839 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : we went with $70. DP put in 50...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258834&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258834 Author: Mucky_Tiger
Subject: 37845
Posted: 04 February 2011 at 10:41am

we went with $70. DP put in 50 as they were his friends from his uni hall of residence, and i put in 20 as im a poor student and arent as close to them as he is]]> Fri, 04 Feb 2011 10:41:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258834&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258834 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : It depends on who it is but we...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258661&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258661 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:47pm

It depends on who it is but we would usually give what we would spend on a gift. So usually about $50.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 23:47:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258661&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258661 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I&#039;d normally go with closer...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258388&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258388 Author: Richie
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 5:22pm

I'd normally go with closer to $100, especially if two of you are going. I just figure, that they will be spending $50-60 each on you for meals so it's only fair.
Interesting to hear peoples thoughts as we are getting married in Nov and will probably have a wishing well ]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 17:22:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258388&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258388 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : We always give $100. I agree...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258379&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258379 Author: peachy
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 5:15pm

We always give $100.

I agree with apriletta about giving $50 if I was going on my own, so $50 each seems appropriate.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 17:15:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258379&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258379 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : MamaT wrote: apriletta wrote:TBH...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258350&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258350 Author: londonbaby
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:34pm

Originally posted by MamaT MamaT wrote:

Originally posted by apriletta apriletta wrote:

TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :)



People dont have weddings for the gifts/money. Well at least they shouldn't.
Its often expensive just attending a wedding when you factor in travel, outfits and often childcare, you shouldn't have to get yourself into trouble financially just to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak.


That is true....however, I just don't feel right giving less than that when I know how much it can cost per head to have you attend....also its a 'once' in a lifetime (well hopefully!!!) occasion so in the scheme of things not a HUGE expense if you can budget for it!]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 16:34:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258350&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258350 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I think $60 is good MC. I like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258347&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258347 Author: _H_
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:28pm

I think $60 is good MC.

I like the idea of a wishing well because nobody needs to know how much you put in ]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 16:28:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258347&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258347 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : It&#039;s actually DH&#039;s work...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258317&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258317 Author: RedHeadDuck
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:02pm

It's actually DH's work mate, they get along GREAT!!!!!! And the bride and I are just kinda starting to get to know each other a bit more, I can see us being good friends in the future, if that makes sense??

I'll talk to DH, but we might go about $60. They know what kinda wages etc we are on, so I'm sure they won't care. Would just hate to be a really tight a$$ IYKWIM???]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 16:02:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258317&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258317 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : Yeah, I think $50-$100 is good,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258301&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258301 Author: chelles
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 3:48pm

Yeah, I think $50-$100 is good, also depending on what you can afford.

Another way to look at it would be to think how much you and your DH would spend on a night out, dinner, drinks etc... it would definately come to more than $50.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 15:48:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258301&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258301 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : apriletta wrote:TBH I think...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258242&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258242 Author: MamaT
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:53pm

Originally posted by apriletta apriletta wrote:

TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :)



People dont have weddings for the gifts/money. Well at least they shouldn't.
Its often expensive just attending a wedding when you factor in travel, outfits and often childcare, you shouldn't have to get yourself into trouble financially just to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:53:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258242&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258242 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I would agree with the above -...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258241&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258241 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:51pm

I would agree with the above - $100 if they are family or close friends, otherwise $50.  But at the end of the day it should be whatever you can afford, I am sure it will all be appreciated

]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:51:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258241&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258241 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I would say $50-70, the range...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258240&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258240 Author: MamaT
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:49pm

I would say $50-70, the range at our wedding was about $50-100 from couples.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:49:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258240&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258240 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : TBH I think $100 for a couple...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258222&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258222 Author: londonbaby
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:39pm

TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :)]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:39:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258222&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258222 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : Interesting thread! We went to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258220&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258220 Author: Princess_Bubs
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:37pm

Interesting thread! We went to a wedding last night (Old work colleagues of Df's who moved to Australia 2.5 years ago and we haven't spoken to/seen them since but they came back here to get married)

We're going to do Myer's vouchers online for them and df was saying $100(AUD) I was definitely thinking much more like $50 is more than generous as we hardly know them.

It was a family/rent a crowd affair

(ie aside from family the rest of us were complete randoms who hardly knew the people)

Weird. I wouldn't invite people who didn't know and love me/df to my wedding - I'm sure most of you didn't either?!? I know it's off topic but I just couldn't work out why we were invited ? Also bumped into a high school friend of mine there. She flatted with the groom 3 years ago and hasn't spoken to them since either!?]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:37:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258220&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258220 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I think it depends on how well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258203&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258203 Author: sem
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:23pm

I think it depends on how well you know the couple and how much you can afford!]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:23:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258203&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258203 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I think 50 is a good amount. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258193&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258193 Author: mrsturtle
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:19pm

I think 50 is a good amount. ]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 14:19:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258193&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258193 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : When on 2 incomes we were usually...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258122&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258122 Author: tiptoes
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 1:10pm

When on 2 incomes we were usually spending around $100 but since being on one income (and with 4 weddings this season) I've been spending around $60 instead.

We got lots around the $50-60 mark for our wedding and also lots around the $100 mark so that helped make me feel comfortable with the quantities we spend.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 13:10:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258122&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258122 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : Me too, gypsynita. I&#039;ve spent...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258095&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258095 Author: Hopes
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 12:45pm

Me too, gypsynita. I've spent a little more on my brothers and sisters, and while I'd always aim for about $50, I wouldn't feel bad about giving a present worth a bit less if I really couldn't afford it. I know we got presents that would have been worth less at our wedding, and we still really appreciated them and weren't in the slightest put out.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 12:45:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258095&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258095 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I usually budget $50 for friends,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258070&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258070 Author: gypsynita
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 12:20pm

I usually budget $50 for friends, $100 for close friends/relatives (ie: brothers & sisters, not distant cousins!)]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 12:20:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258070&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258070 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : We are going to a wedding 2moro...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258057&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258057 Author: Mum_mum
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:58am

We are going to a wedding 2moro and I thought about $40-50 cos we are on one income.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 11:58:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258057&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258057 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : I think it is all about what you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258048&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258048 Author: kiwikt
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:48am

I think it is all about what you can afford.

$50-100 is appropriate for a wedding. I think if you are in a duel income household then probably closer to $100 is more appropriate. But it depends on what you can afford.]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 11:48:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258048&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258048 <![CDATA[Wishing well- Wedding : How much would you put in? We&#039;ve...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258037&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258037 Author: RedHeadDuck
Subject: 37845
Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:34am

How much would you put in?
We've got wedding on Saturday, and they have been together a while, own their own house and all that so I totally understand that.... But how much would you put in?

When we got married last year, we had a big combination of cash, vouchers and gifts from people. I can't remember for the life of me how much cash people were giving, but I remember most vouchers were $50....

Is $50 enough for a cash gift? Was just reading in another thread most people would be $50-$100 .... ??]]> Thu, 03 Feb 2011 11:34:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37845&PID=1258037&title=wishing-well-wedding#1258037