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OHbaby! Forums : Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Mon, 04 May 2026 14:24:52 +0000 Fri, 21 Jan 2011 20:30:27 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=37522 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : jano1 wrote:I went out for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247440&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247440 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 37522
Posted: 21 January 2011 at 8:30pm

jano1 wrote:

I went out for dinner with friends one night while pregnant and I ordered tuna for dinner. She then told me my child was probably going to be autistic- WTF

Hahaha this is fantastic, gave me a good old laugh

When i told MIL i was pregnant this time, as soon as DP left the room she told me all the things i need to do better this time

It always makes me laugh because she has 3 kids, raised them all the same never tried anything different so who is she to say her way is right

But i love the comment also from MIL that i need to put this baby on a 4 hr routine from day 1. Hrmmmmm so when my baby wakes after 2/3hrs wanting boob am i meant to say sorry back to sleep it hasnt been 4 hours yet. Ummm no.

]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2011 20:30:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247440&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247440 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Urgh, I hated when people gave...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247392&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247392 Author: Chickoin
Subject: 37522
Posted: 21 January 2011 at 7:53pm

Urgh, I hated when people gave negative opinions on names!

When DD was 10 months and not yet crawling in any way, my dad told me (and anyone else who would listen) it was because I carried her everywhere.

How else do you move a baby that isn't crawling?]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2011 19:53:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247392&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247392 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Gosh some of this "advice"...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247346&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247346 Author: lil_lease
Subject: 37522
Posted: 21 January 2011 at 7:19pm

Gosh some of this "advice" is shocking!!! I agree with a few others, yeouch on the pineapple!! That was too much, I had to share it with DF and we both cracked up laughing over it!

Ok, advice. I got asked if I was going to be breastfeeding and when I replied with an affirmative I got told "Oh it hurts, believe me. It's absolute agony!!"
Erm, thanks. Lol. I got a 5 minute tirade about how much this woman was in pain every time she breastfed. I would have told her to naff off but she's family

Same person asked us if we had a name picked yet and when I showed her the list of possibilities she went through it saying "Dont like that one, nope not that one"
Jeesh, and I thought -I- was the one having the baby and thus I thought -I- was going to be naming it! With DFs input of course lol. ]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2011 19:19:16 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247346&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247346 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Mum and I were discussing girl...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247139&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247139 Author: ....
Subject: 37522
Posted: 21 January 2011 at 3:31pm

Mum and I were discussing girl names last night and she started a sentence with
"Well, if your last name was window . . ."]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2011 15:31:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1247139&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1247139 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : not a piece of advice but yesterday...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1246957&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1246957 Author: Marengo
Subject: 37522
Posted: 21 January 2011 at 1:01pm

not a piece of advice but yesterday when i was in the mall toilet a lady with a newborn said 'how much longer to go?' i told her and she said 'oooh sweets that will be THE looongest few weeks of your LIFE."

thanks lady.. appreciated.

then another lady spoke to me while i was washing my hands, 'do you know what your having?' yes a girl i said 'oh... (look of disappointment) are you pleased?' yes we would have been pleased either way i told her

'oh it must be your first then.'

i had forgotten my standard 'a baby' response to the what are you having question.. sigh.. ]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2011 13:01:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1246957&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1246957 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : From dh's mother. Don't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1246914&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1246914 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 37522
Posted: 21 January 2011 at 12:24pm

From dh's mother. Don't let the (newborn) baby sleep for 5-6 hours during the day or you will be up all night.

Does anyone have a nb who can sleep for that long? I thought I as lucky with the 3-4 hours I've been getting]]> Fri, 21 Jan 2011 12:24:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1246914&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1246914 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Love this I get the wow you going...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1246445&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1246445 Author: ButterflyMum
Subject: 37522
Posted: 20 January 2011 at 9:03pm

Love this I get the wow you going to be busy. Comment I get it now when. Am with one or 2kids peope are shocked to here I have 4. Our latest has been hope you not having anymore lol their face when I say yeah course actualy we want 2more]]> Thu, 20 Jan 2011 21:03:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1246445&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1246445 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Hehe I had a brazilian 2 weeks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245678&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245678 Author: lisa85
Subject: 37522
Posted: 20 January 2011 at 9:23am

Hehe I had a brazilian 2 weeks before my elective and I was HUGE! I'm sure the lady doing it was terrified she'd rip a strip off me and a baby would pop out lol. I was so glad I did it though. I didn't want anyone trying to shave me before surgery lol. Plus I was paranoid about itchy regrowth growing in my fresh c/section wound

]]> Thu, 20 Jan 2011 09:23:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245678&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245678 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : The very best peice of advice...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245672&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245672 Author: lisa85
Subject: 37522
Posted: 20 January 2011 at 9:17am

The very best peice of advice I ever got was this -
Don't listen to everyone elses advice!

]]> Thu, 20 Jan 2011 09:17:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245672&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245672 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Good grief a brazilian!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245393&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245393 Author: MrsMJD
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 9:29pm

Good grief a brazilian!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That might be as bad as the rotating pineapple comment.

]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 21:29:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245393&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245393 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : haha these are great!! That bum...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245239&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245239 Author: tiptoes
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 7:38pm

haha these are great!! That bum comment reminded me of years ago when I had to go to the bank to deposit money each day there was a pregnant woman that did the same and one day the teller told her she was having a girl (I think it was this way around) because a girl steals the mother's looks, whereas a boy makes the mother beautiful. So in effect she told this woman she looked like crap. hehehe

My favourite from when I was pregnant last time, was a friend saying that I needed to make sure I had a brazilian wax before giving birth as she had two student nurse friends present at a birth and they were grossed out by all the hairy women!!!! Um, no actually I'm not and I'm not having a student either now!!!]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 19:38:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245239&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245239 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Man this thread just CRACKS me...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245187&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245187 Author: NewMummyJade
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 6:48pm

Man this thread just CRACKS me up!

My faves are:

My male boss, obviously had little to do with his newborn son's "Make sure you put her to bed at 5:30pm every night, babies need to get 12-14 hours of solid undisturbed sleep, otherwise she will just be a nightmare the next day"

Coz im sure my newborn is going to be more than aware that its 5:30pm and that means sleep time!

MIL when I asked her how a c-section compared to natural birth (I was hoping for constuctive advice"

Her answer "Pain PAIN pain PAIN pain PAIN pain PAIN pain PAIN pain Pain PAIN"

Yup thanks for that, just what i needed to here!]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:48:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245187&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245187 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Question....how would anyone know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245106&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245106 Author: Nutella
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 5:10pm

Question....how would anyone know what it was like to pass a slowly rotating pineapple hahahahahahaha. And youch, I reckon that would hurt more, at least babies don't have spikes!]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 17:10:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245106&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245106 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Has to be said too - I crossed...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245067&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245067 Author: Keleho
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 4:22pm

Has to be said too - I crossed my legs when I read that rotating pineapple comment. Yeouch!!]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 16:22:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245067&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245067 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Not when pregnant but my BIL was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245065&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245065 Author: Keleho
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 4:22pm

Not when pregnant but my BIL was shocked to know that my DD (then about 4mo) hadnt taken a bottle. I suggested that bfing straight from the spout (so to speak) was easier/less time consuming for me and how I chose to feed her.
He then in an all-knowing tone said 'well you'd better get her on a bottle soon otherwise shell never take formula and youll never have a life'
Okay boss....

]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 16:22:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1245065&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1245065 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Jeepers, some of this advice is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244948&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244948 Author: kakapo
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 2:33pm

Jeepers, some of this advice is shocking ! A rotating pineapple ... yeah whatever.

When my friend's youngest (and last) child was about a year old, she and her hubby were lying on a bed in a furniture shop trying it out for comfort. The sales assistant informed her "You'll really appreciate the back support from this bed towards the end of your pregnancy" and she retorted "I'm not pregnant!".

]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 14:33:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244948&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244948 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Edited by 3rdtimelucky ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244928&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244928 Author: 5th...and final??
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 2:18pm

Edited by 3rdtimelucky]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 14:18:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244928&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244928 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : AandCsmum wrote:LOL which is...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244902&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244902 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 1:58pm

AandCsmum wrote:

LOL which is opposite of the olds wives tale! Boy's no bum, girls = bum.
.

oh thats good to know - I needed an excuse!!
(the doc told me my pelvis was really narrow so I had to have a c section which wrecked my last excuse of my bum looks big cause I have wide hips!)

]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 13:58:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244902&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244902 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : MuppetsMama wrote: i had one...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244809&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244809 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 12:29pm

MuppetsMama wrote:

i had one lady at the supermarket ask me every time I came in from about 6 months onwards, "still havnt had that baby yet huh?" and then proceed to tell me it must be a boy because I was putting weight on in my bum!

ETA: It was a girl...

LOL which is opposite of the olds wives tale! Boy's no bum, girls = bum.

I remember a check out lady when I was in (in hindsight) prelabour say something to me, DH had to quickly stand in front of me before I either decked her or lashed out verbally.]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 12:29:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244809&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244809 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : The two comments I hate atm are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244781&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244781 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 12:03pm

The two comments I hate atm are coming from my Dad.

Who said not to let DD rule my life, when I picked her up cause she was crying. I'm a SAHM what else am I expected to do with my time.

Being told not to spoil her, DD was 8 weeks old and sleeping on me at the time. ]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 12:03:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244781&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244781 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : My childless friend asked me (about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244758&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244758 Author: Lillybetts
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 11:43am

My childless friend asked me (about 12 hours after i had a c-section) "are you home yet? I'd like to come see you!" - She knew I had had a 43 hour labour then emergency CS. She also went on to ask me 2 days later if we would all like to go out to dinner that night?!?!? ]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 11:43:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244758&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244758 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Oh yeah, don't you love it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244680&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244680 Author: AuntieSarah
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 10:22am

Oh yeah, don't you love it how everyone can just look at you and 'know' what you're having lol. Even people who don't know you from a bar of soap and have no idea what you look like normally!

A slowly rotating pineapple...wtf?

That one's going to stick in my head too.

]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 10:22:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244680&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244680 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Some of these are awful!! Hila1,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244666&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244666 Author: MuppetsMama
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 10:03am

Some of these are awful!! Hila1, couldn't believe people would say that to you!!
Pillow_fight - what the heck??!
And raspberry jam - that comment from your boss was shocking!!

i had one lady at the supermarket ask me every time I came in from about 6 months onwards, "still havnt had that baby yet huh?" and then proceed to tell me it must be a boy because I was putting weight on in my bum!

ETA: It was a girl...

Edited by MuppetsMama]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 10:03:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244666&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244666 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Thats incredible (and a little...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244637&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244637 Author: Plushie
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 9:35am

Thats incredible

(and a little terrifying at this point!)

I got told of by a girl (no kids, no desire to have them) the other day because i mentioned my desire to have as much of a drug free birth as possible. Apparently i'm holding woman back, that modern medicine has given me a way out but my refusal to use it is hurting the womans lib movement. Figure that out!?]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 09:35:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244637&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244637 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I get the 'do you know what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244500&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244500 Author: karenb_chch
Subject: 37522
Posted: 19 January 2011 at 7:30am

I get the 'do you know what you're having?' I just say 'yes, a baby!' which usually shuts them up.

My fav comment was not given to me, but a co-worker many years ago when leaving on maternity leave (her first). My boss, trying to be reassuring, said that his wife likened childbirth to 'passing a slowly rotating pineapple'. That one's always stuck with me for some reason ...]]> Wed, 19 Jan 2011 07:30:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244500&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244500 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : oh and one more - I was locuming...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244384&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244384 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 10:08pm

oh and one more - I was locuming at a pharmacy when I was about 30 weeks with number 2 - a woman says oh is this your first - I say nono number 2, I have another girl - she says Oh my - girls are having babies so young these days arent they - I say, well I was 31 when I had my first - how old do I need to be! She thought I must have been about 25 - apparently thats too young!!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 22:08:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244384&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244384 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : hehe, this is a giggle My nana...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244379&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244379 Author: Raspberryjam
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 10:05pm

hehe, this is a giggle

My nana said to me at christmas OMG are you still feeding her, she will still be sucking off you when she goes to school - um yeah she is only 6 months old
She often says If you just give her a bottle I could do that for you... yeah I kinda like it this way nan - and I have have had to work really hard to be able to do it!
We are trying for number 3 and Nan says oh no, you cant have them close together - her kids are 9 and 7 years apart - sorry Nan - I dont want to have one at 40 just because you did

Dad says on hearing Im pregnant again - Oh are you sure you can handle it (excuse me !) I coped with the first one and she wasnt a walk in the park dad
On hearing I was having a c section - oh what - thats the easy way out - WTF - um actually dad its major surgery - first time I was in a wheelchair for a week - its not like I asked for it!!~

Super market chic - when I was shopping with both my girls - oh what did you have - A girl I replied - oh thats sad - maybe you will get a boy next time
My old boss - are they to the same father

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 22:05:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244379&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244379 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I can't think of any advice...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244355&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244355 Author: BeLoved
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 9:51pm

I can't think of any advice as such but I remember being continuously being asked when DD was a newborn "So what is she meant to be doing now?" I honestly never knew what to say I was just trying to go with the flow, sometimes I wanted to say "Well I asked her to clean her room but she still has not done it"]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 21:51:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244355&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244355 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Its no less a surprise at 20 (or...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244351&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244351 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 9:47pm

Its no less a surprise at 20 (or however many you were at the scan) weeks than it is at birth!

I get asked if we've found out by just about everyone too, when we say yes we know, they somehow expect us to tell them... love seeing the looks on their faces when we say we're keeping it under the hat til birth though hehe

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 21:47:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244351&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244351 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : This is a great thread! I just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244316&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244316 Author: QTMum
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 9:27pm

This is a great thread!

I just love the people who ask if I know what I'm having. When i say yes it's a girl (or boy in DS's case) they then tell me off for finding out! Why ask FFS.

Or oh no you've spoilt the surprise giving birth won't be as special. Umm no we had a lovely surprise when we found out at the scan and I'm sure I won't be bored when my child is born and I get to meet them for the first time.]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 21:27:56 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244316&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244316 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : bowie wrote:I just had this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244287&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244287 Author: rachelsea
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 9:12pm

bowie wrote:

I just had this one today: I saw a casual friend in the supermarket and she told me "whatever you do, don't stand up straight after the birth - i did and it was like a bloody niagra falls"

LMAO I'm sorry but I have to agree with that one (I gave birth standing up). But I don't go around telling people about it

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 21:12:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244287&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244287 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : It wasn't advice but I had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244223&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244223 Author: Whateversville
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 8:42pm

It wasn't advice but I had a comment "so are you going to have one last night partying? Get trashed one more time?" me ahhh no "oh being a goody goody are ya"

WTF]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 20:42:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244223&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244223 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : dear lord some people are nutbars! well...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244143&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244143 Author: crafty1
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 7:55pm

dear lord some people are nutbars!

well meaning no doubt but total nutbars!

hehe no crazy advice here but this thread cracked me up. ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 19:55:59 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244143&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244143 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Man some of these are awful!! I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244142&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244142 Author: MrsEmma
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 7:55pm

Man some of these are awful!!

I also get the 'gosh, you'll be busy' comment when I've got DS and now look huge.

When I was about 32 weeks with DS I had just finished a work meeting and one of the younger girls with no children and I got talking (actually, it was more of 20 questions) but a few I've never forgotten!!!

"Will the baby sleep through the night when you bring it home?" hmmm

"do you think it will look look like you or your husband at all??"

HER "Are you actually giving birth or are you having a cesarean?" ME "Ill be giving birth naturally" (or so I thought) HER "that's disgusting and I don't think it's a good idea. I'm never actually giving birth, I'm only having a cesarean, I don't want to be torn to shreds when it comes out!"

Charming.. I was already a bit worried about the birth so thank goodness for input like this lol

And from another friend "if the baby doesn't sleep just put some brandy in with the milk and it will go straight to sleep"

Thankfully by that stage I had learned the smile and nod technique!

Edited by MrsEmma]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 19:55:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244142&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244142 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Grandmas really have the worst...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244102&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244102 Author: newme
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 7:30pm

Grandmas really have the worst advice. Mine told that I should be starting the baby on solids, or at the very least put him on formula by 2 - 3 months.
And now again with DS2 she has been telling me that he will definately need to be on solids soon....he is 7 weeks old!
MIL tried to give DS1 some lemonade when he was a month old, and told me how babies need sugar in their diets!!!

And a guy at my work (who I barely knew) made a special point about speaking to me to pass on his tips for giving birth!!! And he was serious! ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 19:30:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244102&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244102 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : When I was looking for a midwife...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244062&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244062 Author: MrsMJD
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 6:58pm

When I was looking for a midwife I had one tell me "you probably won't need asthma medication during your pregnancy, most women get much better" after more than 20yrs needing medication I don't think so! the rockstar comment was "What do you do for a job" (I'm a Nurse working in general practice) "Oh well you have to stop that, nasty disgusting job"

?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Needless to say I didn't choose her!!!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 18:58:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1244062&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1244062 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Pillow_fight! Arghh! I had the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243982&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243982 Author: High9
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 5:44pm

Pillow_fight! Arghh! I had the don't buy too many NB items too! I bought some home and my mum and grandma said they were far too small for a NB and that I should get 3-6 sizing for it to fit lmao Lily didn't even fit NB it was too big! ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 17:44:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243982&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243982 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I just had this one today: I saw...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243904&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243904 Author: Plushie
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 4:51pm

I just had this one today: I saw a casual friend in the supermarket and she told me "whatever you do, don't stand up straight after the birth - i did and it was like a bloody niagra falls" which is probably great advice but a little shocking to hear out of the blue from someone you're not that close to in a supermarket! Her other tip was "Try not to eat too much afterwards, it'll hold of having to poo for an extra few days and thats a good thing"]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 16:51:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243904&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243904 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I'm 21 and have been married...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243879&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243879 Author: Keolyn
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 4:30pm

I'm 21 and have been married for almost 3 years.. so at first it was:
'you're so young, are you sure you're ready for this?' UHH NAH! I didn't think about this at all.

then: 'Ah, you're married young, have any kids?' no, am I not allowed to just be married?

and now its: 'Oh you're pregnant! you're gonna be so tired, kids are hard work!'
Do they think I don't know that?! *sigh

People always ask about the Morning Sickness thing, I was lucky enough not to get any and people have said 'oh well, maybe you'll get some later'.. not everyone gets it! Can't they be happy I'm not throwing up every day? sheesh!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 16:30:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243879&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243879 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : @KerryLea Haha, guess you should've...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243869&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243869 Author: ....
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 4:23pm

@KerryLea Haha, guess you should've stopped thinking about that morning sickness :P

Mum has told me to visit my Grandma and ask for baby advice, but not take any of it ^_^
One of her popular tips is to put salt in baby's bottle.]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 16:23:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243869&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243869 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I went and saw my GP at 4 weeks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243818&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243818 Author: Keleho
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 3:52pm

I went and saw my GP at 4 weeks and he told me that morning sickness is all in your head, and if I think im going to get it, i probably will.

When I was throwing up 10+ times a day 2 weeks later I really felt like throwing up on his shoes....]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 15:52:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243818&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243818 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : "don't buy too many...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243798&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243798 Author: Whateversville
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 3:28pm

"don't buy too many NB nappies - my baby was only in them for two weeks"
YOUR baby was 10lb12oz it's no wonder.
"Don't buy too many clothing items in NB size - My baby was only in them for a couple of weeks"
Again, your baby was 10lb12oz

I hated random people asking if I thought of any names. No, I wasn't planning on naming him actually.

When you have a newborn EVERYONE asks if they're a good sleeper, a good feeder, are you breastfeeding then proceed to tell their stories of cracked nipples and sleepless nights..

Even now, at 9months one of the most common questions is 'is he sleeping all night' then when I say no it's followed by things like oh it's coz he needs formula.

*rolls eyes*]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 15:28:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243798&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243798 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Sally wrote:It used to annoy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243783&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243783 Author: Marengo
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 3:19pm

Sally wrote:

It used to annoy me when people would try and convince me it was ok to eat food that you are meant to avoid in pregnancy. ("Oh, in my day it was fine to eat this/ you could probably eat this fish [that's been sitting out in the sun for ages before we cooked it]/ you could drink that glass of wine cos it's Christmas"....Yeah, ok...if you want my baby to have fetal alcohol syndrome or be harmed cos I get listeria....) Got tiresome having to justify my choices, and I wasn't even really fastidious about it!

i hated this too, you just reminded me of a girl that used to scoff at me when i would refuse her herbal teas.. saying i was overreacting and overcautious.. well i'm sure she would have been cautious too if she had been trying to have a baby for two years and had had miscarriages!! ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 15:19:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243783&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243783 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : jano1 wrote:I went out for...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243697&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243697 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 2:10pm

jano1 wrote:

I went out for dinner with friends one night while pregnant and I ordered tuna for dinner. She then told me my child was probably going to be autistic- WTF

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 14:10:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243697&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243697 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : UGH I hate the whole food thing....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243696&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243696 Author: MuppetsMama
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 2:08pm

UGH I hate the whole food thing. I wasn't paranoid, but figured if I knew about it I may as well avoid it as in the unlikely event I did get listeria I would never forgive myself.
Constantly got "You can eat that, you'll be fine, we all used to eat it when we were having babies" etc etc
]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 14:08:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243696&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243696 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Marengo wrote:i hate people...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243622&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243622 Author: mothermercury
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 1:20pm

Marengo wrote:

i hate people asking 'are you excited?"

I used to get this aaaallll the time, so I just started saying to people, "No, not really.

I didn't really get too much unwanted advice. Some of the people posted about in this thread sound nuts! ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 13:20:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243622&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243622 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I went out for dinner with friends...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243613&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243613 Author: jano1
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 1:15pm

I went out for dinner with friends one night while pregnant and I ordered tuna for dinner. She then told me my child was probably going to be autistic- WTF]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 13:15:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243613&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243613 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Sally wrote:It used to annoy...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243600&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243600 Author: AuntieSarah
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 1:12pm

Same - my Dad was a shocker for this over Christmas and would act like I was being so fussy - I am a hell of a lot more relaxed than I was first time and than a lot of other pregnant people. The opposite also annoyed me - someone at work told me I wasn't allowed to eat a sausage roll (actually "you're not allowed to eat that") and couldn't give me any reason why. ANd my MIL told me over xmas that I'm not allowed to drink coffee! ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 13:12:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243600&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243600 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I had a woman at work who'd...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243599&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243599 Author: AuntieSarah
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 1:09pm

I had a woman at work who'd never been pregnant tell me that morning sickness is all in the mind (when I was about 12 weeks pregnant and was throwing up at work every day)

I saw on a friend's facebook page someone asking her if her baby was STTN yet...he was 6 days old lol. ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 13:09:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243599&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243599 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : It used to annoy me when people...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243594&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243594 Author: Lucky apple
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 1:06pm

It used to annoy me when people would try and convince me it was ok to eat food that you are meant to avoid in pregnancy. ("Oh, in my day it was fine to eat this/ you could probably eat this fish [that's been sitting out in the sun for ages before we cooked it]/ you could drink that glass of wine cos it's Christmas"....Yeah, ok...if you want my baby to have fetal alcohol syndrome or be harmed cos I get listeria....) Got tiresome having to justify my choices, and I wasn't even really fastidious about it!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 13:06:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243594&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243594 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : i hate people asking 'are...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243548&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243548 Author: Marengo
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 12:31pm

i hate people asking 'are you excited?"

nooo i'm filled with dread that i will have my daughter with me soon.. ffs people seriously..

i got told the other week 'make sure you change her nappies, nappy rash is just awful'

i just smiled and nodded to that one.. didnt quite know how to react! did she just tell me i'm so useless i wont change a nappy?

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 12:31:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243548&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243548 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : becsscolly wrote: Babykatnz...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243510&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243510 Author: MummyFreckle
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 11:56am

Originally posted by becsscolly becsscolly wrote:

Originally posted by Babykatnz Babykatnz wrote:

Not really advice either, just a passing comment from a storekeeper who noticed I was preg and had Jae with me 'wow, you're going to have your hands full!'

Really? I thought it'd be a walk in the park!

I am SO SICK of this comment, its kinda obvious really I get it when I'm with both my boys (1 and 3) and I'm only just becoming obviously pregnant... Any thoughts for smart comebacks? A muttered 'yeah' or 'its all good' is getting boring!

"We are only having this next one for spare parts.....

I have another three older ones at home and they are going to look after the baby when I go back to work....they dont really need to go to school anyway!

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 11:56:10 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243510&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243510 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Bowie! My grandma used to say...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243481&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243481 Author: High9
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 11:18am

Bowie! My grandma used to say 'Don't put your arms above your head, babies cord with strangle it!' or 'Don't stretch'

'Don't bath or you'll cook the baby'

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 11:18:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243481&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243481 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Hehe that's awesome about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243393&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243393 Author: rachelsea
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 10:18am

Hehe that's awesome about your dad saying childbirth is just like doing a big poo!

I get told all the time by certain family members that "the next baby won't be as good as Chelsea is". I say "maybe it will sleep though!" (she's almost two and still wakes in the night most nights lol). I've also been told to not make the same "mistakes", ie don't feed this one as much, it'll spoil him. And leave it to cry from birth - cuddles spoil them

]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 10:18:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243393&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243393 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : haha I like Bowie's response,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243355&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243355 Author: TheKelly
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 10:00am

haha I like Bowie's response, otherwise I would just smile and say "well,parenting is tiring and hard no matter if you have one, two or three "

When I was pregnant with C I made a comment to a friend about how baby had fingernails etc, I was 37 weeks pregnant, she was shocked, "really ?? I thought they were still like an alien "
Scary thing is,at the time, she was training to be a nurse ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 10:00:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243355&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243355 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Look suprised and say "Oh,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243330&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243330 Author: Plushie
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 9:48am

Look suprised and say "Oh, no, this ones for sale! You can get a really good price for them right now!"

My personal favourites came from a woman who starts every sentence with "I've never been pregnant but..." or "I don't have children but..." who saw fit to eat breakfast with me every morning (at work) and say things like
"I've never been pregnant but i know if you put your arms above your head the babies cord will get wrapped around its neck"
"I've never been pregnant but you shouldnt eat marmite, its high in folate and thats not good for a growing baby" (??????!)
"I've never had children but would LOVE to be at your birth. Do you have a midwife? Because i watched a baby being born one other time and i'd just love to do it again."

ETA: my brothers girlfriend asked me last week (At 38weeks) if i could feel the baby moving yet. What, did she they only 'activated' the day before the birth??)

Edited by bowie]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 09:48:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243330&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243330 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Babykatnz wrote: Not really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243313&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243313 Author: becsscolly
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 9:38am

Babykatnz wrote:

Not really advice either, just a passing comment from a storekeeper who noticed I was preg and had Jae with me 'wow, you're going to have your hands full!'

Really? I thought it'd be a walk in the park!

I am SO SICK of this comment, its kinda obvious really

I get it when I'm with both my boys (1 and 3) and I'm only just becoming obviously pregnant...

Any thoughts for smart comebacks? A muttered 'yeah' or 'its all good' is getting boring!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 09:38:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243313&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243313 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Lol... I had so many people ask...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243236&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243236 Author: High9
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 8:49am

Lol... I had so many people ask me this when I was heavily pregnant and baby would move and my whole stomach would move too ... 'can you feel that? When the baby moves I mean??' lol wtf?! ]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 08:49:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243236&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243236 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : lol MM, I get surprised looks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243211&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243211 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 8:37am

lol MM, I get surprised looks when I say this baby will be an elective... its fairly common knowledge that both my kids have been c-sections, so why should it be any surprise this one will be too!?

Not really advice either, just a passing comment from a storekeeper who noticed I was preg and had Jae with me 'wow, you're going to have your hands full!'

Really? I thought it'd be a walk in the park!]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 08:37:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243211&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243211 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Not really advice, but i thought...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243110&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243110 Author: MuppetsMama
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 6:48am

Not really advice, but i thought this was an excellent comment.
From an old lady, when I told her I was having an elective c-section (for medical reasons, but I didn't mention this) -
"What, don't you like giving birth?"]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 06:48:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243110&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243110 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : Bwahahaha, yeap, birth is totally...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243094&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243094 Author: Chickoin
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 12:24am

Bwahahaha, yeap, birth is totally like having a big poo! Sometimes I have babies without even realising it...

When I was visiting a childless friend with my then 6 day old, she cried a little (baby, not friend). My friend told me it probably means she is teething.

The same friend, 3 weeks later, asked if DD was crawling yet...]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 00:24:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243094&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243094 <![CDATA[Best piece of ’well-meaning’ advice. : I'm sure I'm not the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243090&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243090 Author: ....
Subject: 37522
Posted: 18 January 2011 at 12:15am

I'm sure I'm not the only one of us being bombarded with lovely advice and tips on pregnancy, childbirth, and all that comes after.
And I'm sure I'm not the only one getting tips from those who have never been pregnant, given birth or raised children.

I thought it would be cool if we all contributed some of the funny/useless tips and advice we've gotten from our well-meaning friends and family.

I'll start with my dad telling me not to worry about giving birth, it'll won't hurt more than and will be similar to doing a big poo.]]> Tue, 18 Jan 2011 00:15:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=37522&PID=1243090&title=best-piece-of-wellmeaning-advice#1243090