https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:50:42 +0000 Wed, 30 Aug 2006 12:35:51 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=3587 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=69358&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#69358 Author: mrs frantic
Subject: 3587
Posted: 30 August 2006 at 12:35pm

hmmm... my exoerience is people say stupid stuff cos they ARE stupid... pretty simple really.... ]]> Wed, 30 Aug 2006 12:35:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=69358&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#69358 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=69335&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#69335 Author: Andie
Subject: 3587
Posted: 30 August 2006 at 11:28am

Pretty insensitive of them!  I'm all for telling people you just don't think their joke is funny (like the rugby team comment - how stink, Clare!), or that they're being a Pollyanna and it's not the time for it.  I hate it when you open up to someone about something really difficult and they immediately point out the silver lining in it all... sooo not the time to play that game!  ]]> Wed, 30 Aug 2006 11:28:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=69335&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#69335 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=69023&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#69023 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 3587
Posted: 29 August 2006 at 7:24am

Grrrr, that must have been so infuriating chick I got the opposite when I was pregnant - everyone was constantly saying "god, you're so huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge". Like, hello!!!!! Did they think I hadn't noticed???? Comments like "is that just one baby in there, or is it a whole rugby team?" were so helpful, dontcha think??? Hope all is ok with your wee girls Emma. Sending big hugs to you ]]> Tue, 29 Aug 2006 07:24:41 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=69023&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#69023 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68900&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68900 Author: Maya
Subject: 3587
Posted: 28 August 2006 at 1:52pm

Hehe Paws - might need that stapler because I was speechless - I didn't know what to say! The second one was by text message so I just didn't reply...

Nikki - Haven't seen the McD's things. Must look into it!

Thanks everyone for thinking of me!

And Deborah - I think you're right, they probably didn't know what to say, but still.... I mean they could have said nothing!]]> Mon, 28 Aug 2006 13:52:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68900&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68900 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68803&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68803 Author: 11111
Subject: 3587
Posted: 28 August 2006 at 7:51am

Some people jsut don't think do they. ]]> Mon, 28 Aug 2006 07:51:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68803&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68803 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68778&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68778 Author: james
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 8:41pm

hoow are you going today emma ]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 20:41:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68778&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68778 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68734&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68734 Author: Paws
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 3:38pm

Did you want to borrow my stapler to shove down thier throats? I don't need it now that I'm not at work!

Seriously though, some people can be so inconsiderate!! Maybe they really didn't realise the realities of prem babies....*sigh*

Big hugs to you!]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 15:38:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68734&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68734 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68721&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68721 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 2:29pm

This is a bit OT (well... kinda related), I was watching Cirque Rocks last night and saw that McDonalds has set up rooms for parents in the neo-natal part of the hospital. How absolutely cool is that???
Would you get to use one of those rooms if the twins come early Emma? I hope so. ]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 14:29:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68721&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68721 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68718&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68718 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 2:08pm

they say things like that because when you say

"my baby isnt growing and they will have to be born early"

they dont know what to say so try to focus on something positive, even if it isnt really.

would you rather they said "oh no that is really bad, how will you cope, you poor thing."

it may be a stupid response, but they wouldnt have been able to think of a diff one at short notice prob. ]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 14:08:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68718&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68718 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68707&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68707 Author: caraMel
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 11:49am

Geez, I hope you told them where to go! What a stupid thoughtless thing to say.]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 11:49:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68707&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68707 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68694&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68694 Author: mum2emj
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 9:47am

i agree with everyone! people can be so stupid! argh! why would anyone wish and want to have and believe you are "lucky" to have a short pregnancy?
i just hope that things work out well for you and your precious wee girls (and family ) all us here on ohbaby will be thinking about you and sending lots of love your way. ]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 09:47:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68694&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68694 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68689&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68689 Author: aimeejoy
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 9:01am

Man people are stupid soemtimes! I suppose most people have no idea of the realities of premature babies... BTW Emma, my sis had her twins last year at 30 weeks, and altho they were in the NICU for a couple of months they are fine and dandy now. They are both walking and talking, one is a bit smaller than the other and got sick easily over winter, but they are fine in every other way. ]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 09:01:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68689&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68689 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68679&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68679 Author: Bombshell
Subject: 3587
Posted: 27 August 2006 at 8:25am

Maya i get the same thing when I explain my condition is likely to bring on bubs early - and it doesnt make it easier with people saying oh well at least they are fully formed....we would rather be able to have them bake a little longer....I know exactly how you feel...
I wish people would be a little more understanding sometimes....HUGS to you]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 08:25:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68679&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68679 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68664&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68664 Author: AlyAyde
Subject: 3587
Posted: 26 August 2006 at 10:43pm

OH man MORON'S. Some ppl just dont think hey. ]]> Sat, 26 Aug 2006 22:43:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68664&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68664 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68649&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68649 Author: james
Subject: 3587
Posted: 26 August 2006 at 8:31pm

oh my oh my way to put there foots in there mouths and why oh why would you want a prem bubs dumbasses emma thats what they are ]]> Sat, 26 Aug 2006 20:31:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68649&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68649 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68645&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68645 Author: daikini
Subject: 3587
Posted: 26 August 2006 at 8:11pm

Whatever you said in response, Emma, they deserved it!]]> Sat, 26 Aug 2006 20:11:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68645&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68645 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68637&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68637 Author: lizzle
Subject: 3587
Posted: 26 August 2006 at 7:33pm

people often say stupid things before their brains can censor them. thats why I thank God for internet message boards where I can edit what I say!

Emma, I hesitate to ask - but what was your reply?]]> Sat, 26 Aug 2006 19:33:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68637&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68637 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68635&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68635 Author: Maya
Subject: 3587
Posted: 26 August 2006 at 7:24pm

As most of you know, Mercedes hasn't been growing so well, so we might end up being induced at 32 weeks. Twice this week when I have told people this they have said:

"Oh, you're so lucky - you get to have a short pregnancy!"

Yes, really lucky! If my girls are born then I will spend the next 6 weeks driving backwards and forwards from the hospital visiting them

Do people not actually think sometimes? Yes I am totally over being pregnant, and can't wait to meet my lil girls, but I'd like to bake them a while longer just the same!

Grrrrr! Sorry, vent over!]]> Sat, 26 Aug 2006 19:24:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=3587&PID=68635&title=why-do-people-say-stupid-things#68635