OHbaby! Forums : Legal guardians https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Fri, 08 May 2026 03:36:44 +0000 Wed, 22 Sep 2010 11:12:29 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=35669 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Dh sat down and talked about this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1158879&title=legal-guardians#1158879 Author: B,E&Rsmum
Subject: 35669
Posted: 22 September 2010 at 11:12am

Dh sat down and talked about this long and hard as well.

My DS has a diff father and would go to him. ( unfortunately, he has alot of growing up to do and is 30 ), but I would stipulate that my mother also be a guardian ( if she can be ) cos I know she would keep the father in line, and cos I know she will make sure all the other family on my side gets visitation and holidays etc.

With DD and the one on the way, we have stated that they would live with DH's parents because they are more financially stable, but that both sets of my parents ( divorced and remarried ), still get a say in any important matters and of course get holidays etc.

At the moment none of our siblings are ready to take on that kind of responsibility.]]> Wed, 22 Sep 2010 11:12:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1158879&title=legal-guardians#1158879 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : My parents, definitely not my...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152939&title=legal-guardians#1152939 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 35669
Posted: 15 September 2010 at 8:36am

My parents, definitely not my IL's, I just dont feel comfortable with them, so wouldnt want to leave my kids to them, theres quite a few reasons why I feel that way.

My parents are great with the kids and the kids know them so well, as they see them everyday. If my parents couldnt then I would want them to go to my brother.]]> Wed, 15 Sep 2010 08:36:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152939&title=legal-guardians#1152939 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : My brothers are all way to young...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152938&title=legal-guardians#1152938 Author: flakesitchyfeet
Subject: 35669
Posted: 15 September 2010 at 8:35am

My brothers are all way to young at the current moment. The BIL closest to DH's age is down for the kids, he adores them, and is desperate for a family of his own. I have no doubt he would remain just as committed when he has his own family too ]]> Wed, 15 Sep 2010 08:35:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152938&title=legal-guardians#1152938 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : We&#039;ve decided on my brother...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152897&title=legal-guardians#1152897 Author: clover
Subject: 35669
Posted: 15 September 2010 at 7:56am

We've decided on my brother and one of DH's sisters (haven't asked them yet). That way there is representation from each side and hopefully the best decision will be made. With both our parents still here and together and 4 siblings between us all of whom I wouldn't mind raising my kids I'm sure it would be fine.]]> Wed, 15 Sep 2010 07:56:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152897&title=legal-guardians#1152897 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : DF and I havent talked about this...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152843&title=legal-guardians#1152843 Author: lil_lease
Subject: 35669
Posted: 14 September 2010 at 11:17pm

DF and I havent talked about this at all though I know out of everyone, friends and family, I'd most likely go with my uncle who, although is turning 50 very soon, I think would be more able to do the job than anyone else.

My mum is an absolute fruit loop, for all that I love her, I wouldnt wish her to raise another child.

My dad is out simply because he's more like a sperm donor than a father to me.

DFs Mum is out because I have a feeling she's as nutty as my mum and I dont want that sort of upbringing for my child.

DF's dad is out because he is an alcoholic and also because his physical health has been declining lately.

DF's siblings, well I think his brother would make a good uncle but I cant see him raising my child in a way I can agree with. DF's sister is too young (14 I think) and I cant in good concience lay such a responsibility on her.

My brother is currently 13 so same issue as DFs sister.

I have a few friends who I'm sure would be responsible enough and follow our wishes but one of them doesnt ever want children and most of the others are in their teens or early 20's and arent even thinking of having children.

Also, I was raised for a while by my uncle and I reckon he was the best parent I have ever had.]]> Tue, 14 Sep 2010 23:17:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152843&title=legal-guardians#1152843 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : For us it&#039;s DH&#039;s sister....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152836&title=legal-guardians#1152836 Author: kandk
Subject: 35669
Posted: 14 September 2010 at 10:44pm

For us it's DH's sister. My brothers are overseas, but if they come back here they would also be options.

But you do need to talk to them about it!! ]]> Tue, 14 Sep 2010 22:44:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1152836&title=legal-guardians#1152836 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : I&#039;ve been thinking about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1150817&title=legal-guardians#1150817 Author: MamaT
Subject: 35669
Posted: 12 September 2010 at 8:38pm

I've been thinking about this a bit lately, must actually get round to discussing it with DH

 

I really have no idea, ideally I would love him to go to my Mum, but she isn't in the best financial position at the moment and my step-dad is quite sick with terminal cancer.

My Dad could do it, but I don't trust him 100% to raise DS like I would.

MIL I do not trust at all!!!! Although they have financial stability, are reasonably young still and I know DH would push for it to be them.

 

None of my siblings have started families yet, and unless my older brother or younger sister started a family in the next few years I wouldn't really want to count on them either.

DH's brother is a bit of a drop kick and would never raise our son like his own, although his partner is lovely and I could totally trust her.

 

We don't have any friends close enough to take the responsibility on.

 

Lots to think about I guess.

]]> Sun, 12 Sep 2010 20:38:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1150817&title=legal-guardians#1150817 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : My father and his mother are at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1149166&title=legal-guardians#1149166 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 35669
Posted: 10 September 2010 at 10:47am

My father and his mother are at the moment. my parents however are in a better state to take the boys if anything was to happen. It would be the boys leaving NZ (if we are still here) but my parents are so much younger than DH's parents.

]]> Fri, 10 Sep 2010 10:47:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1149166&title=legal-guardians#1149166 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : The girls&#039; dad and I had...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148931&title=legal-guardians#1148931 Author: minik8e
Subject: 35669
Posted: 10 September 2010 at 12:30am

The girls' dad and I had many many discussions on this, and it's still not set in concrete, but it would likely be MIL and FIL...however, I want my parents to also be guardians so that they have a say in how the girls are raised because I don't believe the ILs would take into account what MY thoughts would have been regarding how the girls are raised, and my parents are more on the same page as me in that regard (especially in regards to schooling).]]> Fri, 10 Sep 2010 00:30:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148931&title=legal-guardians#1148931 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : We have just (finally!) decided...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148919&title=legal-guardians#1148919 Author: WestiesGirl
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 10:59pm

We have just (finally!) decided Jacksons guardians after much debate, talking and time!! We decided on some good friends of ours (an old Army mate of DH and his wife).
They have just gotten married and also have their first baby on the way due next year. We felt they were the best people for the job and that would parent Jackson the way we want him parented and that would respect our wishes (both parenting and financially).

It is a hard decision and not one to take lightly. We personally didnt choose either of our parents cos we dont feel it would be fair to put child rearing responsibilities back on to them IYGWIM. ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 22:59:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148919&title=legal-guardians#1148919 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : My brother is named in our wills....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148778&title=legal-guardians#1148778 Author: T_Rex
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 8:47pm

My brother is named in our wills. We've discussed with him that the reason we've chosen him is we trust him to put DD in the best place for her (whether that is with him (he's only 23 atm), or with either set of her grandparents. I think both sets of grandparents would automatically keep her if they had guardianship, whereas I think my brother would make a considered choice depending where everyone was in their lives.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:47:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148778&title=legal-guardians#1148778 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : DH and I have really only touched...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148758&title=legal-guardians#1148758 Author: kiwisj
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 8:33pm

DH and I have really only touched on this subject, more to exclude people than to actually make a decision (as it seems a lot of you guys have too which makes me feel better!)

My first choice would be my Dad as he's young at heart, loves kids and a lot of my parenting "philosophy" comes from my own parents. Unfortunately, my stepmother and I do not get on AT ALL and I wouldn't want her involved with my kids on a daily basis

My Mum and stepdad are great but have had health issues over the past couple of years that mean they likely won't outlive DH and I and young kids would be a burden. However, they'd probably be good legal guardians.

My bro and sis are younger and both would be great at the day to day stuff but would be a massive lifestyle change for them!

SIL and her husband have their hands full enough with their own two and I doubt they would cope with two (or more) extras TBH.

Which leaves my ILs who I do trust and know they'd do a great job, but they're in their 60s (as of this year) and MIL is a smoker which bothers both DH and I enough that I don't think he'd go for it!

We usually get as far as half agreeing that my sister is the best choice but then worrying that because she is single (for now) it is too much of a burden and would stop her living her own life...

We also have the issue of location as my Dad is in NZ (but away from extended family) and then Mum is in Sydney with bro and sis and her extended family. ILs are all in Victoria. DH's extended family is in Wellington.

Decisions decisions!]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:33:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148758&title=legal-guardians#1148758 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Depending on his age, my oldest...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148673&title=legal-guardians#1148673 Author: .Mel
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 7:40pm

Depending on his age, my oldest son... under the guidance of the grandparents, and our siblings...

Don't like to think about it ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:40:38 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148673&title=legal-guardians#1148673 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : We&#039;ve been struggling with...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148655&title=legal-guardians#1148655 Author: Babe
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 7:21pm

We've been struggling with this one for awhile. No way to anyone in my family or DPs and we don't have any friends at the moment that I would trust to bring the boys up with the same values and love that we would. ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:21:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148655&title=legal-guardians#1148655 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Our wills state that my 2 Bros...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148581&title=legal-guardians#1148581 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 6:22pm

Our wills state that my 2 Bros and SIL (Bro's wide) are the legal guardians of the boys if something happens to DH and I. That way they can share the load as Bro and SIL already have a DD and I am sure other Bro and his DP will eventually get married and have kids

I checked with my youngest Bro as he is a lawyer and just because they are the legal guardians doesn't mean that the boys have to live with them, they may decide that someone else eg my parents are in a better position to have them day to day.
So even if your parents are older they could be the legal guardians and later decide that someone else is in the position to do the day to day stuff]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 18:22:09 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148581&title=legal-guardians#1148581 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : At this stage my sister would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148551&title=legal-guardians#1148551 Author: fairy1
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 5:52pm

At this stage my sister would become legal guardian. Shes pretty much expecting it, but she will also raise him the way we would, and she (currently) doesnt plan on having children so he would be raised as her own.
Both sets of parents are getting old, and I dont like my MIL and wouldnt want my child raised by her. DH's family hasnt settled down yet (eg married etc) and I dont think they are ready, my younger brother (and his wife) arent in a position financially and my family have concerns over the way my older brother is raising his children and I dont want any of our friends to have them. So that pretty leaves my sister. Only think not so good about it is I think he wouldnt grow up knowing DH's side of the family (although he might not if DH died anyway).
It is a hard decision to make, and one I would rather not think of.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:52:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148551&title=legal-guardians#1148551 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : My family is all getting a bit...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148455&title=legal-guardians#1148455 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 4:13pm

My family is all getting a bit older. My brother is in Aussie and we don't get on. There's my ex-SIL not sure she'd want to take on a little one though, my nieces are 14 and 9 much easier than a baby or a toddler.

They'd be money for her as we've both got life insurance till she's 18. ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:13:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148455&title=legal-guardians#1148455 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : DS is simple, he&#039;d go to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148449&title=legal-guardians#1148449 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 4:09pm

DS is simple, he'd go to either his father, or his fathers parents (not like I have any say in the matter, it took me 3 years to fight for the right to have day-to-day care of him from them!)

DD and this one coming are a lot tougher... there is noone in DPs family that we trust enough to be their guardian, my sister has too many kids of her own to have the room for 2 more, and my mum and I dont have that kind of relationship where I would have her raise my kids.... DP has life insurance, so there is something there as back-up for the kids (not DS though as he has his fathers family to take on that responsibility) but if something were to happen to BOTH of us before they were of an age to take care of themselves, it would probably be between DDs godparents, or my oldests godparents, at least I know they will fight to make sure my kids keep in contact regularly as it is inevitable they will be split up in the event anything happened to me.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:09:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148449&title=legal-guardians#1148449 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : We still dont know... I dont want...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148431&title=legal-guardians#1148431 Author: mummyofprinces
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 4:00pm

We still dont know... I dont want IL's as I dont believe they would follow our wishes on how our children were raised. I dont believe BIL would be able to raise our children as his own (though I do think his wife would).

No to my sister, her parenting is the exact opposite to mine and there is no way my dad could do it.

DH doesnt trust my mother.. though I think the responsibility would make her snap out of her selfishness.

So thats all family gone and we cant agree on any friends.

Its also hard as my family are aussie and DH family are here.. no matter who raises them we need to be able to rely on the fact that the family in the other country will get adequate contact.

*sigh*]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:00:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148431&title=legal-guardians#1148431 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : My mom initially. I am seperated...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148417&title=legal-guardians#1148417 Author: Plushie
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 3:51pm

My mom initially. I am seperated from the father, and he lives on an army base in a one bedroom apartment with thousands of guns. He would need a month minimum to sort out bigger accomodation, arrange work hours, get all set up for a baby/toddler/child let alone the fact that he has no experience with children and if baby is young he would be totally useless for a few weeks until he got it sorted.

So legally, my Mom will be guardian with the expectation that when his father is ready they will make the switch.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 15:51:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148417&title=legal-guardians#1148417 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : for us it is my parents. as I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148393&title=legal-guardians#1148393 Author: amme_eilyk
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 3:31pm

for us it is my parents. as I dont get on with my in laws and i feel that their parenting beliefs are very different to mine. my parents are also better off financially and health wise so would be better able to cope. my brother is no where near ready infact the thought of him with a baby just made me and dh crack up. none of my friends are really at a place where they could compare stability and financially wise with what my parents could offer.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 15:31:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148393&title=legal-guardians#1148393 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : We have had quite a few talks...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148386&title=legal-guardians#1148386 Author: Jessica
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 3:24pm

We have had quite a few talks about this and could not come up with a definite answer, talked to our lawyer when we did our wills etc.
My parents are split up but both see heaps of the kids and Dhs parents are very involved in their lives as well. My sister has three kids of her own and lives in the NI, my other two siblings don't have kids yet.
If something happened now, my inlaws would probably get them, with lots of input from my parents but it does worry me that the years pass quickly and they are getting older so we had a meeting with our parents, and my best friend and decided if we left this world they would all sit down together and decide what was best at the time - eg school is different to now etc.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 15:24:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148386&title=legal-guardians#1148386 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : for me it is my mum /or my brother...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148346&title=legal-guardians#1148346 Author: james
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 2:33pm

for me it is my mum /or my brother and sister in law both would be great rasing james love him as much as me and would be able to remind him of me and i trust them tottaly ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:33:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148346&title=legal-guardians#1148346 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Sabrina0007 wrote:Most likely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148318&title=legal-guardians#1148318 Author: High9
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 2:02pm

Originally posted by Sabrina0007 Sabrina0007 wrote:

Most likely MIL. Even if we didnt choose her she would fight until she got DD.

Its kind of hard for me because there isnt really anyone at all i trust enough to have DD if i was to die. Therefore i dont think about it.


Exactly, I just feel my friends or our friends are far too immature. I mean one of our friends had a baby almost 2 months ago and she chose to FF simply because she wanted to have Friday/Saturday nights free to be able to go party. And a lot of our friends are into the whole partying and what not and tbh I wouldn't want to 'ruin their life' or anything.

Tbh I would much rather pick MIL over my own mum but simply because MIL absolutely adores DD (so does my mum, but she has a much harder time switching off after work) and I know MIL already loves to play 'mummy'

My bestie is great with DD but she doesn't plan to have kids of her own so I would feel bad choosing her... I have cousins etc but again they have kids of their own. I'm not close with my half siblings...

Suppose that decides it for me then...]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:02:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148318&title=legal-guardians#1148318 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Sister and her DH. Main reason...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148312&title=legal-guardians#1148312 Author: fire_engine
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 1:58pm

Sister and her DH. Main reason I chose that sister is that she has 2 kids who are close in age to Dan and we have a similar approach to life/parenting.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:58:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148312&title=legal-guardians#1148312 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : I really don&#039;t know. I would...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148270&title=legal-guardians#1148270 Author: clover
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 1:33pm

I really don't know. I would say my bro and SIL but she is Swedish and I'd be worried they'd decide to move there and that wouldn't be fair on our parents or DH's sisters.

One of his sisters has a partner with MS and I think has put of having her own family because of that, another is probably going to be single and suffers from depression (I think), the other is a possibility but has no children of her own.

We don't have any friends that I would consider.

That only leaves our parents, his are in their 60s and mine late 50s.]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:33:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148270&title=legal-guardians#1148270 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Most likely MIL. Even if we didnt...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148261&title=legal-guardians#1148261 Author: _SMS_
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 1:22pm

Most likely MIL. Even if we didnt choose her she would fight until she got DD.

Its kind of hard for me because there isnt really anyone at all i trust enough to have DD if i was to die. Therefore i dont think about it. ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:22:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148261&title=legal-guardians#1148261 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : You&#039;d be surprised Nic at...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148255&title=legal-guardians#1148255 Author: HoneybunsMa
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 1:20pm

You'd be surprised Nic at friends who are in their 20's DP and I were godparents at 21ish and we wouldn't have changed it for the world and if anything happened we would have dropped anything for our godson, now we have 3godkids I've told our besties if we get the kids we get their stuff too (they have a big screen tv, haha) We're godparents to them and will have legal guardianship as they don't trust anyone else so thats quite a big thing

Our DD's guardians will most likely be my baby bro and his GF as they love DD like their own, SIL spoils her and DD has her wrapped round her little finger, my parents are in their 60's so wouldn't put that on them, SIL and bro were both working, bro is doing a course till end of year then will be working again. Plus they would have all the support of my family who know DD as she lives with us at my parents house.

Main reason we wouldn't give her to besties is because they have their three already although whats one more in the grand scheme but she knows my family alot more then them and it'd be too unsettling for her. DP's family we didnt even really consider. ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:20:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148255&title=legal-guardians#1148255 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Our parents are in their late...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148249&title=legal-guardians#1148249 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 1:15pm

Our parents are in their late 60 early 70s getting a bit old. Dh doesn't have any siblings and my brother is in Aussie.
We've got life insurance financially our girl would be provided for, its deciding who should have her welfare as it would most likely end up being a non-family member.



Edited by caliandjack]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:15:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148249&title=legal-guardians#1148249 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : We still haven&#039;t decided,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148243&title=legal-guardians#1148243 Author: High9
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 1:07pm

We still haven't decided, been discussing it for over a year... As we're both young we wonder if it'd be wise to get our parents as her legal guardian (both are about 50 years old...) whereas our friends are all about 20ish. ]]> Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:07:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148243&title=legal-guardians#1148243 <![CDATA[Legal guardians : Maebee&#039;s Godparents thread...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=35669&PID=1148197&title=legal-guardians#1148197 Author: caliandjack
Subject: 35669
Posted: 09 September 2010 at 12:28pm

Maebee's Godparents thread got me thinking.
Who is your childs legal guardian if anything happens to you or your DH/DP/Df?

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