OHbaby! Forums : Bigger age gap https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:19:37 +0000 Wed, 05 Jan 2011 09:57:54 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=28233 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I have 3 kids 4-5 years apart....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1232193&title=bigger-age-gap#1232193 Author: kiwi2
Subject: 28233
Posted: 05 January 2011 at 9:57am

I have 3 kids 4-5 years apart. 14 yr, 9yr, 5yr old. I actuallly like the age gap as each child can be focussed on and they all get on ok. I find it hard enough with the baby toddler stage and adding another to that would just do me in. I take my hat off to mums who have a small age gap. The 14 yr and the 5 yr old get on better together and then the 9yr old and the 5 year old get on well. 14 and 9 not so much as he is such an embarrassment to the teenager attitude at the moment but they used to get on well.

The only thing that I found hard is you have your independence back and the first few months are tough as it is ripped away again. But if I could chose a small or large age gap again then I would definately not change it.

But in saying this I had the luxury of being able to wait for 4 years. If you are starting a family later in life then circumstance dictates what age gap you can have. ]]> Wed, 05 Jan 2011 09:57:54 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1232193&title=bigger-age-gap#1232193 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I have four years, almost exactly...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1232068&title=bigger-age-gap#1232068 Author: gossamer
Subject: 28233
Posted: 05 January 2011 at 3:20am

I have four years, almost exactly between my girls, my almost one year old was born 9 days before my eldests fourth birthday. Its a wonderful age gap.

When the youngest was still very much a baby, her sister was an amazing help, and she wanted to be, always getting everything ready for nappy changes, picking out her clothes for the day,and always so concerned about her, its very sweet to watch. Now that shes a big bubba, they play together all the time, the age gap makes no difference in that way.

My daughter is a pretty unique kid (she seems very mature emotionally for her age) but she has had zero jealousy towards her sister. We were expecting it, and it just hasnt happened, not a bit.

I hope I have another one a bit sooner, Im hoping to be pregnant maybe mid-end of this year so the age gap there would be about 2.5 years. My reason for that is mostly because I want to be finished having kids before I am 30, and I want a few! ;) I think its lovely some families have their children so close together but its just not what fits right for us.

All kids are different but I think it is what you make it. My brothers and I are all 4 years apart from each other but we never felt like we had big gaps between us, it never felt that way at all.]]> Wed, 05 Jan 2011 03:20:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1232068&title=bigger-age-gap#1232068 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I had a 6 1/2 yr age gap between...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1232062&title=bigger-age-gap#1232062 Author: escadachic
Subject: 28233
Posted: 05 January 2011 at 1:34am

I had a 6 1/2 yr age gap between my daughters.

I found, while the older one can be helpful, she was not at all happy to have the limelight taken away from her, after being an only child for so long.

The big age gap works well for some parents...but not so much for me. A shorter age gap is more ideal I reckon, now that I look back. But hey. I'm sure my older daughter will get over it eventually. Well here's hoping anyway.]]> Wed, 05 Jan 2011 01:34:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1232062&title=bigger-age-gap#1232062 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : Aquarius wrote:i cant help...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1230792&title=bigger-age-gap#1230792 Author: minxynzl
Subject: 28233
Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:47pm

Originally posted by Aquarius Aquarius wrote:

i cant help but comment whenever this topic comes up.
i have 6 yrs between first two and then 9 yrs the next gap!!
love it....would not change a thing.
...it just works well.
i dont get the stress mums put themself under by popping out several in a few yrs...
i know the theory is to get childbearing out of the way but it just hasnt been a struggle (maybe getting rid of the weight gain at 37 has )


Haha - I hear you on thebody...I doubt I will bounce back at 40yrs quite like I did with first at 20yrs. Howeer I think I'll need to rey for number three BEFORE the next 20yrs is up or I will be 60 with number 3!!!!!

People often think I mea 19 MONTH age gap rather than 19 YEAR age gap. ]]> Sun, 02 Jan 2011 20:47:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1230792&title=bigger-age-gap#1230792 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : i cant help but comment whenever...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1230253&title=bigger-age-gap#1230253 Author: Aquarius
Subject: 28233
Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:12pm

i cant help but comment whenever this topic comes up.
i have 6 yrs between first two and then 9 yrs the next gap!!
love it....would not change a thing.
...it just works well.
i dont get the stress mums put themself under by popping out several in a few yrs...
i know the theory is to get childbearing out of the way but it just hasnt been a struggle (maybe getting rid of the weight gain at 37 has )]]> Sat, 01 Jan 2011 20:12:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1230253&title=bigger-age-gap#1230253 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : My son will be 19 years and 9...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1228761&title=bigger-age-gap#1228761 Author: minxynzl
Subject: 28233
Posted: 29 December 2010 at 9:12pm

My son will be 19 years and 9 months old wen his little brother arrives in January :)]]> Wed, 29 Dec 2010 21:12:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=1228761&title=bigger-age-gap#1228761 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : Love my 5 year gap. ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=754265&title=bigger-age-gap#754265 Author: AandCsmum
Subject: 28233
Posted: 22 August 2009 at 5:33pm

Love my 5 year gap. ]]> Sat, 22 Aug 2009 17:33:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=754265&title=bigger-age-gap#754265 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : i have 22mnths tween my 2 and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753743&title=bigger-age-gap#753743 Author: spicyapple664
Subject: 28233
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 7:17pm

i have 22mnths tween my 2 and i really like it though it was hard at first and at times its still hard but you'll get tht with any age gap really!!

good luck n thts really exciting goodluck!]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 19:17:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753743&title=bigger-age-gap#753743 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : My eldest had just turned 5 when...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753237&title=bigger-age-gap#753237 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 28233
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 11:06am

My eldest had just turned 5 when his baby brother arrived and it was such an easy transition.  He had already started at school and was happy there, he had his own friends and he was such a big help, he has always been so lovely to his brother and really felt important I think being able to help out and he included.  In saying that though there was 21 monthsd between number 2 and 3 and that was fine as well so I think whatever the age gap you just work with it 

]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 11:06:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753237&title=bigger-age-gap#753237 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : Thanks girls for your replies,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753171&title=bigger-age-gap#753171 Author: LovelyMummy
Subject: 28233
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 10:05am

Thanks girls for your replies, much appreciated

My DP has a 9 year old son whom I am step-mum too & he lives with us & there is 7 years between him & Faith, they get on fantastically which is wonderful, no signs of jealously.

Jess, yip thinking about another bub in the next year or so which is exciting You planning on anymore bubs Jess?





Edited by Shan84]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 10:05:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753171&title=bigger-age-gap#753171 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : There is nearly 11 years between...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753117&title=bigger-age-gap#753117 Author: fallen
Subject: 28233
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 9:09am

There is nearly 11 years between DD and the new baby.

There is 2.5 years between me and my brother #1, 10 years between me and brother #2, 12 years between me and sister, and 25 years between me and brother #3. DD and brother #3 are only 8 months apart in age.

I had custody of brother #2 and sister for a number of years while Dad lived overseas and their mother was living the 'high' life. I feel more like those two are my kids rather than siblings. Where as with brother #3 I have more of an auntie relationship with him.]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 09:09:55 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753117&title=bigger-age-gap#753117 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I have a 10 year age gap between...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753020&title=bigger-age-gap#753020 Author: lemongirl
Subject: 28233
Posted: 21 August 2009 at 1:52am

I have a 10 year age gap between my brother and I while there's a six year age gap between him and my little sis.

The pluses to the large gap are that older kids are more independent and can be good at helping out with babies. I also earned a lot of money from babysitting his friends.
At the time I often felt a bit taken for granted by having so many extra respoonsibilties that my friends didn't. My brother was more like an only child after my sister and I moved out so he got the benefit of being both a sibling and sole child too.

With the benefit of hindsight, I think having a large age gap makes me a lot more confident around young children. I'm able to see what stuff is just a phase and stuff which is of actual concern. I hope it makes me a better mum.]]> Fri, 21 Aug 2009 01:52:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753020&title=bigger-age-gap#753020 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I have 15 months between #1 and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753000&title=bigger-age-gap#753000 Author: Tastic
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 10:56pm

I have 15 months between #1 and #2 and man its hard work! wasnt so much at first as #2 was so prem he was like my baby till he was almost 2 years now, they are trouble and alot of work and between #2 and #3 there will be 3 years 3 months if this bubs behaves and arrives on time and not early like bubs #2!]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 22:56:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=753000&title=bigger-age-gap#753000 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : i have 4.9 year between #1 and...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752539&title=bigger-age-gap#752539 Author: Chickaboo
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 3:45pm

i have 4.9 year between #1 and #2 - great gap in my opinion #1 was off to school not long after #2 was born - then 8 years between #2 and #3 ok gap but its like starting all over again.. this time #3 will be just over 3 when #4 comes along. and he will be off to afternoon kindy not long after #4 ARRIVES.

And as for fighting #1 and #2 argue heaps. #2 winds #3 up all the time and they are both loud LOL...

No matter what age gap you get in the end you just have to make it work for you ,]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:45:19 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752539&title=bigger-age-gap#752539 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : my dh has 2 brothers 9years apart....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752513&title=bigger-age-gap#752513 Author: noisybaby
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 3:14pm

my dh has 2 brothers 9years apart. ]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:14:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752513&title=bigger-age-gap#752513 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I am also thinking of a 4 or 5...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752506&title=bigger-age-gap#752506 Author: first
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 3:04pm

I am also thinking of a 4 or 5 year gap and it is amazing how many people tell you that you are silly to wait that long between kids and that you should just get it over with but I'm starting to just take their comments with a grain of salt.
I like the idea that my first will be at school or kindy so I'll get a bit of rest and one on one time with the new baby. I also like that I get to have a smaller child around the house for longer as I am only oging to have two kids and so I want to enjoy all their stages not just have them so close together that I don't have time to enjoy.

All this said I don't have anything against a small gap too.]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:04:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752506&title=bigger-age-gap#752506 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : Shan84 wrote:How big is the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752482&title=bigger-age-gap#752482 Author: jazzy
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 2:46pm

Originally posted by Shan84 Shan84 wrote:

How big is the age gap between your kiddies?
Anyone with a 4 year age gap? And how did you find it?

Thanks



Found it easy, DS1 was 4 when DS2 was born, he was at kindy & I had time with baby & when baby was asleep I had time with DS1. So I say easy pezzy.

BUT now we have DS3 & that is hard work. The 8yr old is so easy but you get the 4yr old & 3yr old together & that is hard work were as the 8 & 4yr old get on well together.....no fights, lol]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 14:46:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752482&title=bigger-age-gap#752482 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : I have a 7 year gap between mine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752466&title=bigger-age-gap#752466 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 2:32pm

I have a 7 year gap between mine .....]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 14:32:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752466&title=bigger-age-gap#752466 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : Hey Shan Our age gap was great!!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752395&title=bigger-age-gap#752395 Author: 3xMummy
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 1:41pm

Hey Shan

Our age gap was great!! Minardi understood what was happening & she loved helping

You thinking about another bubba???? ]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:41:15 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752395&title=bigger-age-gap#752395 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : We had 5 years between ours. Really...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752393&title=bigger-age-gap#752393 Author: Snappy
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 1:40pm

We had 5 years between ours. Really found it hard at first, only because it had been so long since the first one. Some have said to me it would have been better just getting them all out of the way!

I am glad we do have such a big gap now, Janaya was so helpful when Jackson was born, and she still is now. I used to be able to drop Janaya off at school in my Pjs then come home and nap while Jackson did. ]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:40:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752393&title=bigger-age-gap#752393 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : my sisters kids are just over...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752392&title=bigger-age-gap#752392 Author: monikah
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 1:40pm

my sisters kids are just over 5 and they scrap like nothing i have ever seen in my life. lol. the oldest boy is really sooky though and the girl is a real tom boy and beats him up so i guess it would be different from family to family. they seem to be really tough on one kid and really easy on the other though so maybe not the best example over all. i do know they quite struggle with the fact they are in completely different stages of life, they hate the same TV programs, hate the same outings etc...]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:40:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752392&title=bigger-age-gap#752392 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : We have 3 years, 8 mths between...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752382&title=bigger-age-gap#752382 Author: Maya
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 1:34pm

We have 3 years, 8 mths between Maya and the gremlins, and I reckon it's the perfect age gap - if we were to have another (big If!), I'd want a similar age gap. Maya was old enough to understand what was going on, was really involved with the pregnancy, buying stuff for the babies etc. And she wasn't totally dependent on me, she could entertain herself while I was feeding the babies, and was at preschool so I got a break during the day when the babies were asleep (yeah right, as if they slept!).

We had 20 mths between the gremlins and lil miss - insanity! I would never do it again!]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 13:34:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752382&title=bigger-age-gap#752382 <![CDATA[Bigger age gap : How big is the age gap between...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752306&title=bigger-age-gap#752306 Author: LovelyMummy
Subject: 28233
Posted: 20 August 2009 at 12:24pm

How big is the age gap between your kiddies?
Anyone with a 4 year age gap? And how did you find it?

Thanks

]]> Thu, 20 Aug 2009 12:24:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=28233&PID=752306&title=bigger-age-gap#752306