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OHbaby! Forums : The "no more babies" blues https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Tue, 07 Apr 2026 22:00:40 +0000 Mon, 23 May 2011 13:08:48 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=18834 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : After i had Toby i remember feeling...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331963&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331963 Author: Bizzy
Subject: 18834
Posted: 23 May 2011 at 1:08pm

After i had Toby i remember feeling sad that i was never going to be THE grandmother as i had no girls... then lo and behold we got pregnant and had Eden. LOL!

But i do feel sad still now knowing there is definitely no more babies for me. I too have felt sad getting rid of the baby clothes and stuff too... I love babies and being pregnant though! *sigh*]]> Mon, 23 May 2011 13:08:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331963&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331963 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Go on emz. have another :) ]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331901&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331901 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 18834
Posted: 23 May 2011 at 11:56am

Go on emz. have another :)]]> Mon, 23 May 2011 11:56:03 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331901&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331901 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Well it's almost three years...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331849&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331849 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 18834
Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:56am

Well it's almost three years down the track....didn't realise I had posted in this thread so was a surprise to read it again lolz. Kahtrell is 4.5 years old....and we are now in the "see what happens" phase.]]> Mon, 23 May 2011 10:56:45 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331849&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331849 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Well we definitely don't...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331655&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331655 Author: emz
Subject: 18834
Posted: 22 May 2011 at 10:52pm

Well we definitely don't want any more, but with my sis and 2 close friends due in the same week, I'm now getting incredibly clucky! But I hope being able to hold their babies will be enough, I don't want to go there again but get a bit sad that I'll only ever be able to borrow cuddles again]]> Sun, 22 May 2011 22:52:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331655&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331655 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : When I had B I swore no more......]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331504&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331504 Author: Babykatnz
Subject: 18834
Posted: 22 May 2011 at 6:05pm

When I had B I swore no more... not if having babies was going to be how it was with him, then I met DP and he was so clucky lol! Had Jae and after all the time and tears it took to get her, he didnt want to go through that again... I knew I wanted one more though... clearly I got my way

Got my tubes tied during c-sect (was free btw since I was on c-sect #3) and now in the process of selling the tiny baby stuff our last has grown out of... I dont feel 'SAD' sad to see them go, more a case of 'out the door they go and I'll never see those cute little clothes on a baby again' kind of sad, I put a lot of thought into what I buy and have my kids clothed in, and its a little sad that I'll never see them again, but I'm totally happy with my decision, havent regretted it yet (then again, hes only 11.5 weeks old!)]]> Sun, 22 May 2011 18:05:23 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331504&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331504 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : With DS3 turning 5 this week it...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331397&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331397 Author: jazzy
Subject: 18834
Posted: 22 May 2011 at 1:35pm

With DS3 turning 5 this week it is suddenly sinking in all those pre schools days are nearly over. We would love another...DH wants one big time...]]> Sun, 22 May 2011 13:35:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331397&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331397 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : my husband has said no more..i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331392&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331392 Author: NovemberMum
Subject: 18834
Posted: 22 May 2011 at 1:26pm

my husband has said no more..i am still holding out hope that he will change his mind..i dont even bother bringing it up (he is the one that says "two is enough") we have both agree we will reasses in 3 years (well when our son is 3.

I know that at his moment in time I dont want any more babies/children but maybe when our youngest is 2-3 I would like (but yeah all dependent on DH) to try for another.]]> Sun, 22 May 2011 13:26:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331392&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331392 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : bumping this thread, he is now...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331349&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331349 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 18834
Posted: 22 May 2011 at 11:31am

bumping this thread, he is now 3 years old and we are STILL having this conversation, well rather I am and the DH isn't listening lol!!

]]> Sun, 22 May 2011 11:31:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=1331349&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#1331349 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : i wish they had've asked...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434774&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434774 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:59pm

i wish they had've asked me....i would've said yes.....condoms are horrible and we can't afford for DH to get the snip

question.....if they do tie your tubes while your open after a c/s, does it cost?]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:59:12 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434774&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434774 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : james wrote:they asked my mother...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434649&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434649 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:49pm

Originally posted by james james wrote:

they asked my mother when i was knocked out for my c-sec lucky she said no

thats a shocker!

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:49:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434649&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434649 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I dont blame you Emma, thats a...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434644&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434644 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:48pm

I dont blame you Emma, thats a pretty big decision to make!

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:48:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434644&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434644 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Maya wrote:They offered to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434565&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434565 Author: james
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:00pm

Maya wrote:

They offered to tie my tubes! When I had my pre-induction appt yesterday she asked me about contraception and if I had a c-sect did I want my tubes tied. I said no tho, I am not in the right head space to make such a permanent decision.

they asked my mother when i was knocked out for my c-sec lucky she said no

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:00:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434565&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434565 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : They offered to tie my tubes!...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434555&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434555 Author: Maya
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 3:50pm

They offered to tie my tubes! When I had my pre-induction appt yesterday she asked me about contraception and if I had a c-sect did I want my tubes tied. I said no tho, I am not in the right head space to make such a permanent decision.]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 15:50:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434555&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434555 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : i know i,m not running out of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434511&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434511 Author: james
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 3:20pm

i know i,m not running out of time i,m just relly clucky and i dont have a pantner it makes it relly hard

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 15:20:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434511&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434511 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Lu you are so not running out...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434305&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434305 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:02pm

Lu you are so not running out of time at 30, I know I will be as that is when I'm due to have the baby making oven removed.

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:02:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434305&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434305 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : james wrote:i have the what...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434294&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434294 Author: MrsMojo
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 11:48am

Originally posted by james james wrote:

i have the what if i run out of time to have more babies i,m 30 this year and i could be running out of time

I certainly hope not. I'm 30 this year too (a few days after you I think) and we're going to start to TTC #2 in a couple of months. DH wants 3 kids and I want 4 so we're just beginning our family really. I have another 15-20 years before I reach 'middle age' and I don't feel too old to have kids, in fact DH's mum was in her 40s when she had him (although he was her last - they decided 8 kids were enough).

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 11:48:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434294&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434294 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : my DH and i have always been on...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434267&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434267 Author: mrshouse
Subject: 18834
Posted: 08 July 2008 at 11:19am

my DH and i have always been on different planets when it comes to when and how many kids.......and he always seems to win!

i didnt want kids til i was in my late 20's but as he was quite older and desperate for kids i thought id give him one at 22! now when the surprise pregnancy came along i was so gutted but i knew he was over the moon.....he now jokes that this time next year he wil be sitting with 1.....2....and 3 in the tummy!

but for me i know i dont want any more any time soon.....but i wouldnt "end" it because i know i might want 1 or 2 more down the line..........

hard hard choice to make......but i think if i was like some of you who are absolutely sure then thats the choice for you!

]]> Tue, 08 Jul 2008 11:19:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=434267&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#434267 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Lu! 30 is still baby young as...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433439&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433439 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 18834
Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:18pm

Lu! 30 is still baby young as far as I'm concerned! You've got HEAPS of time to make more babies

]]> Mon, 07 Jul 2008 14:18:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433439&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433439 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : i have the what if i run out of...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433432&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433432 Author: james
Subject: 18834
Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:11pm

i have the what if i run out of time to have more babies i,m 30 this year and i could be running out of time

]]> Mon, 07 Jul 2008 14:11:58 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433432&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433432 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : My mum was told not to have any...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433364&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433364 Author: Roksana
Subject: 18834
Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:21pm

My mum was told not to have any babies...when she got Pregnant with me she didnt go and see a doc untill she was like 7 months pregnant (Doc would have made her abort).....after giving birth to me Doc told her not to have any more...she waited 8 years and had my brother!! She always wanted two!!

OH...she has a bad heart and hence the NO Babies. She was really sick after my Bro, so never considered to have any more. She had me at 19 and Bro at 27.

I was talking to her about this thead and she could relate too...Funny that!

]]> Mon, 07 Jul 2008 13:21:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433364&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433364 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Awww, Char - I can completely...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433333&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433333 Author: Jay_R
Subject: 18834
Posted: 07 July 2008 at 12:43pm

Awww, Char - I can completely relate to what you are feeling.

I'm not having any more babies. I'm not allowed to. Which is a whole other issue which I won't go in to right now..

And I want another one. Despite what I say to people IRL, I can be honest here and say I SO WANT ANOTHER BABY and am gutted I can't have anymore!

So big hugs to you darls. We can be the "no more babies blues club" founding members

Edited by joshierocks]]> Mon, 07 Jul 2008 12:43:26 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=433333&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#433333 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Jennz wrote:I feel similar...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432693&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432693 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 18834
Posted: 06 July 2008 at 12:37pm

Jennz wrote:

I feel similar too- you're not mad at all! I DO NOT want any more babies- I am perfectly happy with my 2 and have no desire what so ever of having any more.... but I am sad that I will never again experience all the wonderful things that come along with TTC, getting that BFP, being pregnant, waiting for baby to arrive, having a newborn and watching them grow etc. Obviously there are alot of negatives that come with all those things but the positives are so lovely that it does still make me sad that I'll never get to experience it again.

Not nearly sad enough to change my mind though!

Exactly how I feel]]> Sun, 06 Jul 2008 12:37:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432693&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432693 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : awwww janinei just noticed your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432637&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432637 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 18834
Posted: 06 July 2008 at 10:51am

awwww janine

i just noticed your new ticker OMG!!!!!

sorry threadjack

]]> Sun, 06 Jul 2008 10:51:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432637&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432637 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I have them, I can't get...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432567&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432567 Author: mum2paris
Subject: 18834
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 10:25pm

I have them, I can't get over them, so much so that i still love it wheni pick up the girls clothes at the endo f the day and they smell like baby powder and all i think is "awww, i want another baby"

enough said.

I want another one... I always will.]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 22:25:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432567&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432567 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : i totally understand where your...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432135&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432135 Author: Phat_Cat
Subject: 18834
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 10:49am

i totally understand where your coming from. Both DH & I are from largeish families (5 kids each side) but this one is our last regardless of sex. I feel kinda sad cause it will be the end but we both feel that in this day & age & for the best future that we can provide for our children two is enough. Im the one going to either get a mirena or my tubes tied (a bit reluctant about the tubes tied because that IS the end lol) as DH reckons he knows of too many snip jobs going wrong - rolls eyes anything to get him off the hook i say... plus ive had real bad morning sickness this time and i sure as hell dont want to go through that again

but then i think if this one is a boy am i going to have a yearning for a girl... but then as DH points out if this one is a boy then maybe i can only have boys and do we keep going and going till we get the girl..hmmm welll yeah]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 10:49:51 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432135&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432135 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : 'Tis the hormones that ensure...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432112&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432112 Author: Maya
Subject: 18834
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 10:22am

'Tis the hormones that ensure the survival of the human race

I remember when I was preg with the gremlins I was absolutely, 100% determined that I was never going to put myself thru another pregnancy, but within hours of them being born I started panicking at the thought of NOT having another one, and I could never shake that. We didn't plan on having this one so soon, but I would have had another baby eventually.

Now I'm terrified the same thing will happen again, I am again determined that there will be no more babies, I couldn't cope with another pregnancy, but I'm worried that I will get the same irrational urges once baby is born. We're not making any permanent contraception decisions at this stage (altho I'd love it if Willie would agree to get the snip) but I am getting a Mirena which will give me 5 years to make up my mind for sure, then hopefully by then this wee babe will be off to school and I'll be well and truly over my cluckiness.

]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 10:22:33 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432112&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432112 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Thanks for all the lovely replies,...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432098&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432098 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 18834
Posted: 05 July 2008 at 9:13am

Thanks for all the lovely replies, seems Im not the only one!!

Eva there is 5 years and one month between my first 2 and they love each other 2 bits!

I never thought of keeping a few outfits, DH is keen on me selling or giving away EVERYTHING, mainly so I dont go getting any silly ideas to have anymore I think lol!!!

Interesting on the snip too, DH talked about having it done but I notice he isnt exactly rushing there!

Blimmen hormones have alot to answer for I reckon!! I guess its just time to enjoy the kids growing up, as I look at Drew who is 5 months now it has just flown by so fast!!!

]]> Sat, 05 Jul 2008 09:13:04 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432098&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432098 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I'm sad because I have to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432049&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432049 Author: ooEvaoo
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 11:18pm

I'm sad because I have to wait just over 2 years to have Number 2 lolz. I want to have at least 4 children ( I come from a family of 7 kids) I love having a big family with lots of neices and nephews, I want my kids to experience that as well. I do however want to have a a reasonable gap between them. I don't want to miss out on things happening with each child during their first few years of life and so I think when Kahtrell is around 4 will be a good age. I always had a thought of how would I be able to love another child when I have so much love wrapped up in Kahtrell, but then it dawned on me that all I had to do was double that love. I know that when it is time to give up the baby making I'll be extremely sad...sheesh I don't like giving away Kahtrell's things now even though he can't fit them anymore!. But knowing me I'll keep trying to make babies til I'm into my 40s!!....If my mum can have my baby brother at 40 it gives me hope lolz.]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 23:18:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432049&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432049 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Ahhh after my first two girls...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432035&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432035 Author: shaz
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 10:26pm

Ahhh after my first two girls we swore we'd had enough. Two is such a good number right?
I never felt I needed a boy, (and still don't ) but a few years ago as I hit my mid thirties I started getting really clucky.
I was also thinking, this is it, I'm getting to old now the choice is pretty much made for me. BUT we decided to not try as such but not do anything to stop it for 1 year if nothing happened then that would be it.
So now we have 3 girls

and I finally feel our family is complete.]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:26:35 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432035&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432035 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : awww i know exactly what you mean!!! i...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432009&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432009 Author: Candkids
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 9:47pm

awww i know exactly what you mean!!!

i was an only child so swore id never want my kids to be a only child and now i have s & j i want 1 more (mabye 2) dh just agrees with me as i dont think he wants to start a argument. lol

but seems J was a bit of a miricle we may not even be able to have anymore. :(
]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:47:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=432009&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#432009 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : well i'm lucky enough to...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431971&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431971 Author: jack_&_charli
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 9:11pm

well i'm lucky enough to have one of each.....

but i still wonder if i want 1 more.......i'm so clucky i can't stand it! if i see a bub in a pram/carseat anywhere, i have to look at it....if i hear a bub crying in the store, i must go look for it and i get the urge to grab it and try to console it...........oh god i'm pathetic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DH is against having a #3 so i doubt it will ever happen.....and part of me thinks, why would i do that to myself again, mostly when jack and charli are fighting and playing up

went to a pyshic who is sure i'm not finished having kids and there's 1 more for me........time will tell...and if it does happen, it will be unplanned as DH wants to get the snip as soon as we can afford it]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:11:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431971&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431971 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : ...my mother wanted a "fourth...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431950&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431950 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:46pm

...my mother wanted a "fourth one " for years, ...so i gave her a grandchild to play with instead

Well, i still have a little while before i have to worry , we arent going to TTC #2 till nov/dec and we want Caitlyn plus two more, im lucky tho, i always wanted a girl and i got my girl first, so if its another girl next time, sweet, if i have a boy, lovely, im not fussed

....at least a girl will have a name ....]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:46:40 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431950&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431950 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I feel similar too- you're...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431947&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431947 Author: Jennz
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:43pm

I feel similar too- you're not mad at all! I DO NOT want any more babies- I am perfectly happy with my 2 and have no desire what so ever of having any more.... but I am sad that I will never again experience all the wonderful things that come along with TTC, getting that BFP, being pregnant, waiting for baby to arrive, having a newborn and watching them grow etc. Obviously there are alot of negatives that come with all those things but the positives are so lovely that it does still make me sad that I'll never get to experience it again.

Not nearly sad enough to change my mind though!

]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:43:37 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431947&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431947 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : me too - although everytime theres...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431942&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431942 Author: AnnC
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 8:37pm

me too - although everytime theres a hard part with rhyley (which reminds me why I don't want anymore) all those (and theres alot more good than bad) Good times with him makes you melt and thing - perhaps - till I slap myself again!

I have 2 boys and a girl so the want for another girl has been there but not a crave as if I would have if I hadn't had a lil girl (or visa versa)

I guess what has made my decision harder and perhaps not a final decision is because DH would love one more. He does understand where I am coming from so he is happy with the decision and going along with me (except for the fact I want 'him' to get the snip) But I can't fully be comfortable with my decision until he is.

I think I just rambled on there but i am sure you know what I mean.]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 20:37:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431942&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431942 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : hmmm I am already freaking out...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431624&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431624 Author: NeoshasMummy
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 2:39pm

hmmm I am already freaking out about when we get preg again because thats it! no more after that and I will be sad

]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 14:39:29 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431624&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431624 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I feel the same way. I know I...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431610&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431610 Author: caraMel
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 2:23pm

I feel the same way.
I know I couldn't cope with another one and I really strongly feel that it would upset the happy balance of our family and marriage. I know we would manage and love another baby just as much as the 2 we have already, but it would be much harder a third time.
I subscribe to all of these reasons wholeheartedly and yet, the idea that we will never have another baby really makes me sad.
I still get mad yearning to have another one and damn all the reasons in the world. I'm still hoping it will go away!]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 14:23:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431610&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431610 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I can relate! As I have just...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431568&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431568 Author: Lisha
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 1:44pm

I can relate!

As I have just turned 30, I have realised that now my family is complete, and I will never be a mummy to a boy, oh well, like you kiwimummy I love the girls to bits. No more children for us.

I have been keeping some of my favourite baby clothes, might give them to the girls when they want to start having a family

I want DH to get the chop, we have discussed this alot and it is the right thing to do, as I DONT want to be pregnant again, I know that sounds harsh but just couldn't handle it for a third time around.

Edited by Lisha]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 13:44:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431568&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431568 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Yep totally going through that...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431563&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431563 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 1:43pm

Yep totally going through that now. DH has had the snip and I got my appointment to get my tubes done in th epost last week, so...]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 13:43:00 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431563&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431563 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : Well I cant relate (Yet)...but...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431557&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431557 Author: Roksana
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 1:40pm

Well I cant relate (Yet)...but know exactly what you are saying. You are not MAD....I think I will be the same if this is not a BOY. You know how you set your mind and think yes I want a boy, girl...another boy etc..and then you dont get it...tho your family is complete...its not!!

Not to say that You dont love your children (I know I will love this baby to death even if it is a girl) but some where deep in my heart I will feel that my family is not complete. DH want three kids...I want two. So this will be our last!!

Sorry for the blah blah!!

]]> Fri, 04 Jul 2008 13:40:11 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431557&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431557 <![CDATA[The "no more babies" blues : I am going to sound like a mad...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=18834&PID=431487&title=the-no-more-babies-blues#431487 Author: My3Sons
Subject: 18834
Posted: 04 July 2008 at 12:33pm

I am going to sound like a mad woman lol.....unless I get a new husband we are finished having babies. Now after having Drew I had that feeling that our family was definelty complete, and my sanity couldnt handle having anymore, but as I clear out all the baby clothes and sell the capsule and various other little baby stuff, I feel sad! Also a wee bit of sadness that I will never be the mumma of a baby girl, I love all my boys to bits of course, see I told you I would sound a bit crazy lol!!

Can anyone else relate??

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