https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 09:49:12 +0000 Mon, 17 Mar 2008 22:59:39 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=15321 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=328380&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#328380 Author: busymum
Subject: 15321
Posted: 17 March 2008 at 10:59pm

What a stressful position! First thing I'd look into is some relationship counselling, obviously this is a very stressful and full-on time for both of you anyway, hopefully that can help you move forward. You can get govt-funded referrals to counselling at your local Family Court if you want.]]> Mon, 17 Mar 2008 22:59:39 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=328380&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#328380 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326824&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326824 Author: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: 15321
Posted: 16 March 2008 at 12:06pm

I dont have any advice, just wanted to give you a big hug hun ,so sorry this has happened ]]> Sun, 16 Mar 2008 12:06:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326824&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326824 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326814&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326814 Author: nikkitheknitter
Subject: 15321
Posted: 16 March 2008 at 11:35am

I'd have a big chat to him and suggest that if you are ever going to trust him fully again then he needs to let you have access to everything (including not deleting history or text messages)

That's just me though.]]> Sun, 16 Mar 2008 11:35:05 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326814&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326814 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326500&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326500 Author: myfullhouse
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 8:41pm

I would be really hurt and pis*ed off as well. My opinion is that you don't need this sort of stress and worry when you are pregnant or when the babies are born. If he has lied before then he will probably lie again. I am sure that it would be really hard but I would suggest cutting your losses and moving on. Your babies will need a loving environment not one where you are always wondering if he is mucking you around.
I wish you all the best and hope that you have alot of love and support from your parents and other family and friends. ]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 20:41:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326500&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326500 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326354&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326354 Author: .Mel
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 5:12pm

Oh that's good thinking Kandice!!]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 17:12:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326354&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326354 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326339&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326339 Author: MissCandice
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 4:37pm

Hey,

First of all big hugs, i have been through this also.

As for the computer. I have a programme that hides in the background of your computer, he wont ever know its there and it takes a screenshot every 2 minutes and saves it to a random folder that he wont find. If you want to know the name of it, or if you ant me to send it to you flick me a PM..]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 16:37:21 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326339&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326339 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326325&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326325 Author: susieq
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 3:56pm

I got that txt too ]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 15:56:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326325&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326325 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326274&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326274 Author: kebakat
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 1:54pm

Or check your temp internet files]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 13:54:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326274&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326274 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326257&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326257 Author: .Mel
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 1:12pm

Even though he's deleting the history, I bet he isn't deleting the cookies. You can check where he's been going via cookies too.

It just sounds all dodgy to me.]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 13:12:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326257&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326257 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326256&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326256 Author: mamanee
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 12:56pm

My ex was doing this except with NZDating and Findsomeone. I always found out, would ask him to delete his accounts and he never did. He tried to tell me that you couldn't delete your account, it just lays dormant until you enter your username/password again. Obviously this is bullsh*t and I never believed him. He was doing this right throughout my pregnancy and after I had Sam. He never changed and he'll do it to every other girlfriend he has because that and many many other asshole things he did to me made me realise that I am worth SO much more than that and I deserved better, and so do you! It's bloody hard splitting up with someone when you've got a little baby and I can't even imagine what it would be like for you having two on the way! I hope things work out for the best for you and your little ones and that he has stopped doing this.   

Edited by neeandsam]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 12:56:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326256&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326256 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326207&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326207 Author: emz
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 11:47am

I got the txt 2 - I thought the wording was a bit weird as I've never used a chat thing before but made it sound like I had.

But from what your partner has done in the past, I would kick him to the curb! Sorry that's not much help but seriously what a piece of shiz partner if he's racking up bills like that when you've got twins on the way, chatting to other girls, deleting the history... there's something he doesn't want you to know.]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 11:47:42 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326207&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326207 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326188&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326188 Author: Lee_Jon
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 10:45am

I also got the same txt and I have never used anything like that on my mobile, why dont you call the cell phone company and see if it was some sort of advertising]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 10:45:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326188&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326188 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326175&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326175 Author: J&Ls mum
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 10:20am

I also got that txt, i'm sure it doesn't mean anything because i have NEVER used txt chat.]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 10:20:31 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326175&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326175 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326167&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326167 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 10:09am

I think you need to have a serious talk with him, it sounds like he is being very discetful(sp?). If my DF was doing that id be ripping his head off lol
Him deleting everything seems like he hiding something, if he had nothing to hide he would not delete all the history on the computer etc and his turning his phone away from you and in the middle of the night....

Definitly have a good talk with him and tell him you are not happy and wont put up with it, its not fair on you, you dont need crap liek this 36 weeks pregnant with twins! **hugs**

Edited by Sheza]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 10:09:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326167&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326167 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326157&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326157 Author: Guests
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 9:43am

Yes i have checked his inbox and outbox and nothings there... but i didnt expect to see any there anyway coz as soon as he sends a text he deletes them.

It may only be advertising but i wouldn't put it past him as i have caught him before using my phone in the middle of the night and when i wake up he turns the phone on an angle so i cant see it... and changes the website he's on.

He's also started deleting all the HISTORY of websites visited on the internet on the Computer. I can't see the need to do that unless he's doing something wrong, i know i don't delete the history becasue i've got nothing to hide!

CLAIRE ]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 09:43:30 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326157&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326157 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326152&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326152 Author: .Mel
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 9:32am

He lied to you, after you gave him the opportunity to tell you the truth. I guess what you need to decide is whether or not you can trust this man.

I think you should disconnect the phone and sell it.

You need to sit down with him and tell him that you aren't happy with the fact that he lied to you. Find out whether or not he is happy with you.

You can't afford to be stressed out like this and you need to point that out to him.

I think what he's done is awful and I'd be pissed off with my DH if he did anything like that. I have a very dim view on guys who use those kinds of websites. Have you checked the saved messages and the sent ones?
Maybe that will give you some insight on what he was texting those girls.

Good luck, I hope you get it sorted.
]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 09:32:18 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326152&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326152 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326132&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326132 Author: pepsi
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 9:04am

I got that random text too and only I use my phone so it was just advertising from the look of it.]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 09:04:53 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326132&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326132 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326120&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326120 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 8:42am

Just remember if the phone is in YOUR name, just ring up and get it cut off :) Sucks when they do that crap - i'd be having a good old yell at him.]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 08:42:08 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326120&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326120 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326101&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326101 Author: emmaohara
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 8:01am

I also got that text and have never used the service so it must have been a stupid one they are sending out to make us use it, bad timing though vodaphone

Big hugs to you and hope you got some sleep girl ]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 08:01:20 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326101&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326101 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326090&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326090 Author: Angie
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 6:10am

Hey dude,
My partner also got a text tonight that said the same thing from vodaphone - He said he had no idea why they were sending him a thank-you for using text chat - I kinda believe him cause its not really his sorta thing!
(I could see him being sneaky n stuff but thru other means!!)

Sooooo it could possibly just be a random thing they are sending out to drum up interest in their new site.... we actually commented they better not be a scam kinda thing & start charging his phone $3.50 a day for stoopid messages he didn't ask to receive!

Good Luck getting everything resolved & back to looking forward to having two beautiful lil boys keeping you up half the night!!!

P.S Just have to add I'm jealous about the lazy-boy!! I had one last pregnancy & it was the best place EVER to breast feed & I'm peeved we cant squeeze one into our weeny house this time around.

Edited by Angie]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 06:10:46 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326090&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326090 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326081&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326081 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 3:52am

I really dont know what to say except he has broken your trust again:( not that it is an excuse but did he give any reason last time?

to you ...his behaviour sucks:( ]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 03:52:17 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326081&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326081 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326079&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326079 Author: Guests
Subject: 15321
Posted: 15 March 2008 at 1:14am

I'm absolutely gutted, heart-broken and pis*ed off.

Back in October last year my partner got a new phone on contract over the internet and put it in my name... Received a bill in Mid January for $1900. Yes ladies $1900 which he had clocked up all the amount in December except $42. Rung Vodafone once i recieved the bill and asked them what websites had been accessed from his phone as $1800 of it was WAP usage... Internet in other words. They told me it was all these internet chat and flirt sites. Which made me really angry! I also discovered he was texting 2 numbers constantly, none of which belonged to his family or friends.

So i asked him whose the numbers were. He replied with "Oh, one of them is Tim's girlfriend Renee's number and the other one i don't know whose it is... Sounded suspecious to me when he didnt know whose this number was that he was texting all day everyday (NOT MINE!), so i decided to ring the two numbers and find out who they were. The number he said was Renee (Dan's gf) was a girl named Shontelle. The other another girl who said she met Jeff on a flirt chat website.

So again i confronted him and told him i knew who they were to tell me the truth. He just told me the same thing as previously but after i mentioned Shontelle he said oh yeh that's Tim's gf... when she told me she knew no Tim. I ended up back at mum and dad's thinking about whether i could ever trust him again and stay together or whether i should end the relationship. I went back one last time to our flat in town and told him to tell me the truth right then and there. And he did. Told me that he got there numbers of a chat site.

I told him that i would come back on the condition that he never did it again and promised to always be honest from then on. HE PROMISED ME!

Here's the spin. Tonight i received a text on my Vodafone saying "Thank you for using Txtchat. Carry on chatting using text or try interactive chat on Vlive!" with a lick attached to the message. So i got on the computer and typed in the link....... It's another Chat/ Text flirting website. And he was the one that had my fone the last few nights on the bedside table on his side of the bed.

I'm so angry and really heart-broken. I don't know what to do. He has got work in the morning at 4am and should be home tomorrow afternoon after midday (12pm).

Please help me ladies as im 36 weeks pregnant with Our Twin Boys... And stressing out big time. I can't sleep with him tonight so i think il go sleep in the Lazy-Boy chair in the babies room.



CLAIRE]]> Sat, 15 Mar 2008 01:14:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15321&PID=326079&title=help-please-what-do-i-do#326079