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OHbaby! Forums : Parents and your Pregnancy https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ Copyright (c) 2006-2013 Web Wiz Forums - All Rights Reserved. Thu, 09 Apr 2026 10:15:58 +0000 Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:36:57 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 12.05 360 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=15242 <![CDATA[OHbaby! Forums]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_images/web_wiz_forums.png https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/ <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Have you spoken to your Dad about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324239&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324239 Author: MissAngel
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:36pm

Have you spoken to your Dad about this Sheza? I'd be having a go at him TBH. Matts parents are really weird - When we told his dad about it in the beginning, he wouldnt speak to us (he's a jehovas witness and was freaking out about what the church was gonna say cuz we're not married) and his mum is always so bla about everything. Hes gonna be the first grandchild and theres no interest from them at all! MIL even makes me (well tries) to do heavy lifting etc when I go over to her place. Julian (FIL) confronted me about his religious problem, and I just told him straight up that i'd go to the church and sort them out if they were gonna be nasty to him about it - I have no problem doing that at all.
Then we have my dad.
My Dad maybe rings me once a month when he wants to know something, doesnt really show much interest - until he suprised me the other day by saying he's bought a webcam so he can see the baby when he comes (dad lives in the bay of islands and i'm in canty) His Mrs is really cool, always interested when I call.
Mum is great, really supportive. Mums partner is completely overwhelming at times - to the point I have to tell him to sod off home and leave me alone!!
Sorry for the long post - just remember Sheza that it's all about YOU and your partner/baby so talk to mum and dad about it. I'm sure they'll tell you why they are the way they are :)]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:36:57 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324239&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324239 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : I haven't really read all...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324228&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324228 Author: Rachael21
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:28pm

I haven't really read all the replies but I'll tell you my story. I was 19 when got pregnant with Jack and living in Nelson with a boy they didn't really know (and we had only been together a few weeks) so I got my sister to tell them and man they flipped my sis warned me so I didn't answer my phone (in hindsight I probably could of gone about things a bit better). I came down to see then cos they hadn't talked to me and I was quite sad about it, Dad told me to get and abortion, Mum took me to councelling to try and talk me into an abortion. Dad couldn't care less about the whole thing but did help out a bit when we moved. He actually got really protective at the end and didn't let me drive anywhere.

Now they are totally in love with both of them, Mum calls Jack her Jack and misses him if she doesn't see him twice a week. Jack spends every saturday with them in the garden. So they will come around and I bet ya when that gorgeous baby is here they will be proud to be called nana and grandad.]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:28:34 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324228&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324228 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : I can understand my dads view...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324221&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324221 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:19pm

I can understand my dads view on things i guess, but its just mum that bugs me the most.
I know she hates the idea of being called nana lol as she is quite a trendy mum, doesnt want to look her age(she doesnt try and dress young or anything she is just...trendy lol ,shes a hairdresser!) so having someone call her nana makes her cringe lol

i wouldnt say they are disapointed in me, as they can see that i am happy..finally..I dont know what it is with them. My main guess would be denial, they are in denial that they are about to become grandparents. But I am 25 lol, my mum was 23 when she had me.

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:19:02 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324221&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324221 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Maybe its a few things, like you...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324210&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324210 Author: fattartsrock
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:10pm

Maybe its a few things, like you mentioned, they and you guys are reasonably young still, so it may be a bit much for them to get their head around (your mum is only 3 years older than my hubby, lol!!!)They probably still feel in their 30's and think of you still as a 13 year old with her whole life ahead of you! and maybe the fact you are pregnant, you being their precious first born and daughter, means that its clear to all and sundry, ncluding them, that you are actually sexually active!!!!! maybe its something they don't want to "visualise" in their minds eyes. Also, maybe they had hopes and dreams for your life, and having babies at this time wasn't part of those dreams? maybe they are diassapointed? maybe they wanted other things for you? I also know my Dad didn't like to see or touch my belly, even with Charlotte, when we all knew he wouldn't be alive to meet her, he just wouldn't touch my belly, nor would he let the ultrasound technician bring the machine over to the hospice to do the scan I had to find out the sex a week before he died, he just didn't want to see it.

Please don't take offence, just some other ideas as to what might be going on.. Rest assured, when Baby gets here, it will all change!]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 22:10:01 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324210&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324210 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Bobbie that totally sounds like...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324141&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324141 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 9:26pm

Bobbie that totally sounds like something my mum would say! Like when i walk into the room and her and dad have friends over she will say "Here comes buddah" or "Fatty" or something, it doesnt really bother me, but sometimes it does.

Im on iron tablets

But Im feeling very very tired, especially the last two days I have felt like ive been hit by a bus, I was trying to tell mum this tonight but as usual she may as well have ignored me, she didnt give a flying fig, i said "MUM!" and she was like "yeah"(not answering me cos I said mum, that was her answer to me saying Im feeling tired and sick again) and then she turned to dad and started talking about herself

thats when caden started kicking and i could see a foot or something so thats why I had my top up, and dad told me he 'Didnt wnat to see that and to put my top down"

Im sorry ladies, im just tired and p!ssed off and blahh my legs ache and yep lol *deep breath*

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 21:26:27 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324141&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324141 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Sheza my mum was a bit strange...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324103&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324103 Author: Bobbie
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:54pm

Sheza my mum was a bit strange before Rowan was born. She wouldn't generally ask after me and when I brought up how I was feeling, baby stuff etc. she would generally change the subject - either to something non baby related or to discuss my cousin who was having a high risk pregnancy.

At one stage when I was telling her that the baby was breech and I would most likely need a c-sec she looked at my stomach and yelled 'turn around ya bugger' so loudly that I actually took a step back. She thought it was funny but I was a bit upset since the baby could actually hear by then.

But once Rowan was born she was there looking after me for the first 6 weeks and she absolutely dotes on Rowan. I think maybe she just didn't know how to act around the pregnancy but once the baby was here she knew exactly what to do and loves it. You may find your parents are the same. It may be a bit hard for them to see their own daughter being pregnant.

Sorry that was a novel but anyway those are my musings. I felt really exhausted around that stage of the pregnancy - how are your iron levels? Mine were shocking.]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:54:47 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324103&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324103 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : LOL my parents were less than...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324102&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324102 Author: Maya
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:54pm

LOL my parents were less than over the moon when I got preg with Maya, when I told my mum (via phone as she is in Oz) she said "I can't talk to you right now, I need time to process this, I'll call you in a few days" and as for my dad, well I was too scared to tell him till I was 19 weeks and the night after I did he took my brothers to the pub and ranted and raved about how I had ruined my life and Willie was a loser etc. etc. Nice huh?!

But as soon as he saw her, Dad was besotted with Maya, she is absolutely the apple of his eye, he always tells her she is his favourite, altho he's gonna have to sto that or the gremlins will get cross lol!

I know it's tough at the time, it sucks, and I often think just once it would be nice to say "I'm pregnant" and have them say "congratulations" coz even with the gremlins who were very planned I still got lectures and disappointment. But hey, such is life, and at the end of the day they love my kids to bits and I guess that's all that matters.

Oh and that I will be much less judgemental if/when my girls get pregnant!]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:54:44 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324102&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324102 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Im pretty sure they will be doting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324095&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324095 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:46pm

Im pretty sure they will be doting grandparents, like for example, I told dad we wanted to get another cat, a ragdoll one and he said "Your not bloody getting another cat while your living here it will come down here and il end up feeding it blah blah" anyways i ended up getting the kitten(he is now nearly a year old), a gorgeous white fluffy chinchilla persian,(who is sprawled on the floor in front of me right now hehe) and what do you know, my dad LOVES him and my mum, they just love him, so when they meet their first grandchild i know they will be in love with him

but i guess its the emotional support I need right now, im feeling quite scared about the labour and stuff and having their support is what i want.

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:46:28 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324095&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324095 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : big hugs Sheza... my parents were...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324077&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324077 Author: ElfsMum
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:37pm

big hugs Sheza... my parents were over the moon..but that is a little irritating as well:) but i understand how that comment hurt..i didnt give my parents an option of seeing my tummy...i made them and DAd would always want to touch him and he would never kick Dad and i felt like i failed:(

anyway pregnancy makes you emotional but even normally that comment would be mean and uncalled for..

My Dad told me he didn't like the name we picked and i really got mad and upset with him and I never normally do..
My Dh was like your parents though.. didnt want to feel him kick wasnt interested ..it wasnt till the end and the birth and now with him here he couldnt be better(well he could get up more ) but when hes up he's great..and it really upset me too:( so i know how you feel! DH was like"I'll be different when bubs i here and i was like so why cant you be now..i need support now! ]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:37:48 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324077&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324077 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Aw hon, that would upset me too....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324068&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324068 Author: kabe
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:31pm

Aw hon, that would upset me too. Might weren't that excited when we initially told them I was pregnant, but they got more excited as my pregnancy went along. They were equally underwhelmed when we announced our engagement. They aren't big on affection, so it didn't really surprise me. They are the most doting grandparents though, so hopefully your folks will be the same.

Is your nana on your mum or dads side? Maybe she could have a quiet word with them and suss out whats going on.]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:31:25 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324068&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324068 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Yeah that was so uncalled for....]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324066&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324066 Author: Kellz
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:28pm

Yeah that was so uncalled for. I think your Dad needs to be told. Good that u just walked away and didnt lash out at him like I would of. But he shouldnt get away with it at all. Thats no way to speak to anyone,..and like u said they arent nasty people,...would he have said that if a work collegeue had been showing another a tiny bit of her baby bump or something?
I have major issues with my Dad, so cant really dish out advice,..but its not healthy for you (or bubs), for u to be worried about all this. I really think you should ask them how they are feeling about it all, and get it out in the open. There are lots of ways that they could be showing u support without spending $$ either, maybe they are worried that they cant provide what they feel they 'should' be as grandparents.]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:28:36 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324066&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324066 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Is your mum superstitious at all?...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324058&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324058 Author: monster
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:24pm

Is your mum superstitious at all? Maybe that could explain it. I know my mum felt funny about buying things for bubs before he was born (she even thought that we shouldn't!). She was still excited though. ]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:24:43 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324058&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324058 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : I think my dad does worry about...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324050&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324050 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:16pm

I think my dad does worry about me, like money wise and stuff. Ive never been very good with money and after i split with my ex i was very messed up for a while, but this was about 4 years ago and now Im finally happy and settled, money is tight but we are getting there.

Im not asking them to be really involved and shower us with gifts, all I really want is for them to at least talk to me about the baby and stuff, more my mum than dad....i cant see my dad having a chat to me about the highs and lows of pregnancy LOL, but it would be nice if he would ask me if we have everything sorted etc..ya know?

I think its just finally really got to me, and especially after dad saying what he did tonight, it was mean and un called for. I just walk out of the room cos i felt embaressed.]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:16:49 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324050&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324050 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Yeah I agree Teresa,... wanting...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324024&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324024 Author: Kellz
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:03pm

Yeah I agree Teresa,... wanting to be too invoved would be awful too. You hear of people whose parents go ut and buy everything cos they are so excited, and the poor parents of the baby dont have a say in anything.

That must be awful for you tho. Tis weird that they are being so obviosly non-intersted, so that outsides even notice they arent acting like 'normal'. Do you think maybe it does bother then that u aren married, or maybe they are worried that how u will cope financilly, or how your relationship with your DF will be once bubs is here.
My Dad especially, has behaved in a similar way at times, and I have felt that he is not interested I me/ or ashamed etc,..but it turns out he was just really worried. He is quite old fashioned tho. When DH and I first went flating together we lived next door to my parents,...and because we werent married, and we had only been together a few months, Dad wouldnt talk about it, and never came over the whole 2 years we were there. Weird!

Really hope things improve for u soon. Maybe u will have to have a big heart to heart with them. Or what about your Mums best friend. Could u talk to her? Say it like your worried about your Mum, not yourself tho, maybe?
]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:03:52 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=324024&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#324024 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Grandparents seem to be either...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323999&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323999 Author: busymum
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:46pm

Grandparents seem to be either too involved or too little involved. Our parents were fairly excited about our pg's and generally asked how I was etc, however when it comes to buying stuff for our girls, it just doesn't - and won't ever - happen. We get hand-me-downs of way-old clothing from my mum (some of which is not even good enough for a clothing bin so I chuck it!!!) and birthday pressies from both sets of parents and that's it. They don't seem all that interested in spending time with their grandkids or in their development either.]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 19:46:06 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323999&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323999 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Mum2Sam your right about Sam having...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323938&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323938 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:51pm

Mum2Sam your right about Sam having you and your DH

My DF and I are going to spoil our lil boy rotten and we love him to bits already.
Mum and dad will love him to bits aswell but I just wish they would show more interest now cos I need the help and stuff...

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:51:22 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323938&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323938 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : When we told them all that I was...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323921&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323921 Author: mummy_becks
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:44pm

When we told them all that I was pregnant my dad was the only one that was totally happy for us. My mum was as well but not as much as my dad.

DH's parents were not happy as DH was the youngest and we weren't married (strange as they aren't that traditional) and we were still young ourselves (both 21). But they got over it once Andrew was here.

I don't blame you being upset at what your dad said, I would be too.

]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:44:13 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323921&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323921 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Man that really sucks, I'm...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323899&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323899 Author: Mama2two
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:30pm

Man that really sucks, I'm so sorry to hear they have made you feel that way.

My family showed absolutley no interest in my pregnancy with Sam or to be honest with her now that she is here. I think my Dad has seen her 3 or 4 times since she was born! They never bought her anything (even though they can afford it) or offered to help out with anything.
Luckily DH's family were fantastic, very excited and see her heaps, plus they spoil her rotten.

I can't help but think that if my Mum were still alive things would be different with my family, but hey, that's life and the way I figure it, Sam has me and my DH and his family, and that is enough love for any little girl

]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:30:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323899&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323899 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Just mainly its what my dad said...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323890&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323890 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:24pm

Just mainly its what my dad said to me, made me feel like I was gross or something.
My nana said that he was always funny about my mums pregnant tummy aswell, so maybe its just him....

Everything upsets me these days lol, plus I feel awful at the moment, dunno whats wrong I just feel totally exausted

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:24:07 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323890&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323890 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : yeah nana is great! I dont know...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323877&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323877 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:18pm

yeah nana is great! I dont know what id do without her!! she is an amazingly understanding lady!

Its just so hard when your own parents dont seem to really give a crap. I mean dont get me wrong, they are not horrible people at all, they just seem a bit wrapped up in their own life that they dont have time for me...my brothers have all noticed it aswell

]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:18:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323877&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323877 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : Yeah, I know they will be fine...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323872&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323872 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:15pm

Yeah, I know they will be fine when he is here, but especially my mum, i wish she would just...ask me how im feeling and stuff, its always me who says "Oh im feeling..." or whatever, and she never seems very interested.
My nana has been more of a mother to me so far during this pregnancy, nana goes out with me and buys things for baby etc. Mum wont even go out with me on a Saturday or Sunday, cos she is "Busy" or "Tired" or its "I have things to do" which is usally go out with her friend Claire, who I feel she cares more about than me, but again if i say this to her, she will say im being "silly"

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:15:24 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323872&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323872 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : My parents were TOTALLY OVER THE...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323866&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323866 Author: peanut butter
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:11pm

My parents were TOTALLY OVER THE MOON!!!!! but dad is a bit funny about showing the bump. I got married at 39 weeks and he tried to hide the bump in all the photos (like that was poss).

My mum still wont stop buying things for bubs....but they are in a position where they can afford to and they want to.

Maybe yours will come around once bubs is here?]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:11:50 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323866&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323866 <![CDATA[Parents and your Pregnancy : I wasnt sure what to make the...]]> https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323862&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323862 Author: Shezamumof3
Subject: 15242
Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:08pm

I wasnt sure what to make the topic of what I want to ask...
But, how are your parents when it comes to your pregnancy? Are they both super excited or are they so so, or is your mum excited and your dad doesnt really care?
The reason I ask is that my parents just dont seem very interested in my pregnancy, they NEVER ask how I am or how Im feeling etc(even though I live in a flat on the side of their house with my DF) they havent overed to help with anything and they havent got us anything. I asked my mum about this and she said she has mentioned it to dad he said "Have to have money for that".
I thought my mum would be more interested as im her only daughter and this is the first grandchild(Im the oldest)
I dont know whether they think me and DF rushed into this as we have only been together a year, or whether they think they are too young to be grandparents(Dad is 50 and mum is 47) I just dont know....maybe Im just being silly!

Then tonight Caden was kicking round and I had my top up a lilttle so i could see and dad said "Put your top down, i dont want to see that" he really hurt my feelings

why would u say that to your own daughter! I only had the bottom of my top up, like to my belly button

Has anyone else had these probs with their parents? Its really upsetting me, but no matter what i say to them they just dont get how i feel and think im being "silly".

I know that they will totally love Caden when he is born, but a little interest and stuff now wouldnt hurt!

Edited by Sheza]]> Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:08:32 +0000 https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=15242&PID=323862&title=parents-and-your-pregnancy#323862